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Early abortion

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Beckyp1980 · 25/08/2024 20:26

I had a medical abortion 2 days ago. I'm 44 and have three children with my partner. We've been together since our early twenties. Our oldest child is nearly 20.
Two weeks ago, I found out I was pregnant, which was a huge shock!
I decided on the pills by post abortion as I was only 4 weeks and a bit. I took the pills on Friday *by this time I was nearly 7 weeks.... and I'm traumatised, I took them at 5pm after work, thinking it would take 4 hours or so. It took hours, I passed the baby at 2:15am in the morning, continued having pains and had to get up at 6am and go to work and do an 11 hour shift. I came through on my pants at work, it was truly awful. When I got in from work, I cried with relief. What an awful experience. I'm still bleeding and feel incredibly guilty.
I would've kept the baby, if I hadn't have had so much debt, I have to work, I couldn't afford to be on maternity. I feel awful. I think I'm posing on here, just to get if off my chest. Thanks for listening....

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AegeanPebble · 02/09/2024 11:49

I am sorry for your loss, it is truly an awful thing, I didn't realise until i had it done. In the name of choice, we forgot to respect women's health and we sugarcoat abortions.
I hope you can recover.

Tinydancer222 · 03/09/2024 06:28

Sending you a big hun and so much love . Abortion is a horrific thing on the women's psyche which no one warns about you and it's so unfair and cruel . There are no words to comfort you now . The beautiful women on here helped me so much when I had mine by reminding me it will get easier in time . I didn't think it would but it did . Also if you can try get some counseling or group support. It will help. You have been through so much and this is not easy to manage alone. Be gentle and loving to yourself your just a human being here for the first time on earth experiencing life so go easy on yourself 💗

Beckyp1980 · 03/09/2024 16:37

Thank you girls for your kind words. It's been over a week now, I still feel incredibly guilty, but feel more level headed. I think my hormones are leveling off.
It's crazy how much your body changes in just 7 weeks of pregnancy, I think I just forgot because it's been such a long time since I was pregnant. But my breasts are less sore and my body feels more 'normal'. Which makes it easier to 'forget' what happened. I'm hoping as time goes on, it's easier.
Thanks again girls xxx

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