Need advice

[Sunnie124]

Hi, I need some advice/ help - I have just found out I’m pregnant again 7 months after my first DC. My child’s dad are not living together but have been trying to salvage our relationship for our Son. We love each other but I do not feel he supported me at all after the birth and felt like I do most of the parenting on my own even before I left. Now I am pregnant again ( It wasn’t intentional) and I’m gutted. I feel so ashamed that I feel like this but I do not feel I am capable of being a mum to such young children.

but having an abortion feels so wrong I feel like I’d be playing God and who am I to do this.

I feel so alone and embarrassed of my situation and I only have myself to blame.

has anyone else experienced this?

if you dont feel you can have an abortion then please listen to your instinct. you will find a way of managing both children- many people have two close in age and children get easier as they get older. it can be mentally hard having the termination and after mine i realised it took me more mental strength to deal with how i felt after than if I had continued and had the baby e.g i was worried about sleepless nights with the baby but then had insomina anyway! I would access counsellig to process how you are feeling to get to the bottom of what you want to do given the situation. wishing you all the best

Hi thank you for responding to me, I understand that a lot of people do it and if I was with my partner I wouldn’t hesitate but I am on my own. Yes we are trying to work on things but ultimately there’s no guarantee we will end up back together and my family would be so upset. I feel like I’d be alone. I love my son and when I look at him all I feel is guilt that I’m even considering not having be this child but how can I afford 2 children how can I care for 2 under by myself. I’m exhausted already with one. I wish I knew I could rely on my ex but I can’t and I know I chose him but he fed me a dream and now I’m the one who’s doing eveything. Yes I shouldn’t have even got pregnant again but it was an accident and now I’m left dealing with it all. How do I get counselling how do I get help because I don’t know where to go for that, GP is useless they just give me meds whenever I tell them what I’m feeling.

Are you in england if so BPAS could be a good place to phone to ask for some counselling to process your decision. if you did decide to go ahead your midwife could also refer you to perinatal mental health teams who can give you some support. wishing you all the best