Abortion bleeding reassurance

[MeganBoo]

Hi all, was hoping to hear others experiences to ease my anxious mind. To anyone who’s had an abortion how long roughly did you bleed for? I took the second abortion pill last Wednesday so it’s only been a week, I’m currently spotting and have no blood on pads just sometimes when I go toilet, every time there’s no blood I’ll think it’s ending and it’ll lift my mood but end up seeing some blood when I go to the toilet so it’s really unpredictable and there’s no way to tell when it’ll end and for me this stresses me out with my anxiety etc, as I don’t like the unknown and really don’t want to be one of the ones who bleed for weeks or over a month but there’s just no telling especially with spotting as one minute there’s no blood the next there is. I’ve seen on average most people bleed for 1-2 weeks then stop till their period however some can have spotting for weeks, I know I’ll just have to wait and see but the situations effecting my mental health as I’m struggling with the thought of having bleeding for so long. So if anyone can tell me their experiences just to ease my mind a bit, even though I know everybody’s different, I’d really appreciate it 🥲

Hi hun I will tell you my story but I don't tell you to frighten you just to advise you. So if you're not ready to hear then don't read on.

I bled for 2 weeks and was went into A&E and my abortion was incomplete. I had to have tissue removed and then still had to redo abortion pills time. After a week had not stopped bleeding and pain hadn't went away so done abortion pills 3rd time . Then a week later it stopped . I was unlucky . Watch for bad pain if your still taking pain relief which I was 3 times a day for 2 weeks and bleeding but pain was bad please get checked . This was just my experience doesn't mean it will or is yours okay hun .

im not a doctor but sounds like yours is coming to an end as I never had just spotting like you. You can bleed and spot up to a month once there is not loads of pain still you are fine this is normal do not be anxious . I know you want the bleeding to stop ASAP I was the same my mental health couldn't take it . Your in the toughest time right now go gentle go easy and try not over think . It sounds fine though . Message me if you need to . Mind yourself hun xx

@Tinydancer222

Thanks for telling me your experience, I’m not in any pain and not having any cramps just spotting. You mentioned it could mean the bleedings coming to an end and thats what I hoped but I’m aware people can have spotting for 4-6 weeks so there’s no knowing if it’s gonna end or if it’ll be like this for weeks it’s so frustrating as the minute I think I’m in the clear I’ll start bleeding again but it’s the tiniest amount it’s only been a week but already want it to stop feels like it’s never gonna end x

It will end hun I promise it will. You're just going through it right now and want it to be done . It sounds like it's ending. Hopefully only a few more days if even . Be gentle and don't stress it will make you more upset . A week is so soon hun but give it one more week and it will be gone please god . Mind yourself and be kind to yourself okay 💕 sending you a big hug xx

@Tinydancer222

Thank you so much for the reassurance and support, feel like crying as my emotions are all over the place and I don’t have the best support system, means a lot 🥲 I know a week is very early I’m trying to stay patient and give it another week to see if the bleeding stops but not getting my hopes up, don’t wanna be disappointed and still be bleeding. xx

You're welcome hun and I'm so sorry you don't have a support system. Even with mine I was still very broken after my abortion . Mine was 2 months ago . I went to a counselor and even had to phone and emergency hotline for abortions one night because I was in the depths of sorrrow and grief . Please don't suffer alone . Send a private message or make a thread . So many wonderful beautiful women helped me on here with mine and it's so important to pay the love forward .

Your emotions will be everywhere and all over the place this is normal . Don't isolate yourself and treat yourself like you would a best friend or someone you love. Stay home, cry, eat, laugh whatever you need to do to get through it do it . Have a cry all I did was cry as I didn't want to hold it in and let the pain go inwards and be sick from suppressed emotions . I cried buckets for weeks please allow yourself to do that get it all out . Know you are a beautiful soul with a big heart who is struggling and needs self love okay . It will get better. Many women on this told me the same but I was in absolute despair but they were right it gets easier . Just please be gentle and kind to yourself. Ile keep you in my prayers tonight and sending you so much love okay. This too shall pass 💕🦋 xx

@Tinydancer222

Hi just an update, it’s 13 days since my abortion today and I went back to the clinic to do a scan just to put my mind at ease as I’ve been really anxious and so they could tell me what’s happening inside. It’s a good job I went as the nurse said she could see blood clots left in the uterus which is apparently uncommon…she then told me I can leave it and hopefully it’ll naturally come out, I can take pills again to try and get it out but may be some left or I can have it surgically removed which should remove all the clots so I decide to go for the surgical option as it sounds most likely to fully remove the clots and hopefully I’ll have a smooth recovery after. My surgical appointments booked for next Monday I’m rather scared and anxious though as I had to read the risks and it said stuff like damage to womb, womb being removed etc I’m so scared something may go wrong during the surgery and it may effect my chance of having baby’s in the future I feel really stressed I’m happy I went today and they found the clots but also really stressed about surgery going wrong.

Hi @MeganBoo im so so happy you trusted yourself and listend to your body and went and got checked. I personally done everything to avoid the surgical one as the thought of that traumatized me. I went for the pills and end up doing it 3 times. On my final scan there was still a tiny piece of tissue left but the doctor said will pass on my next period so I let my body do that.

I know with surgical abortion there is a chance of organs are damaged you can get a syndrome which can affect your fertility (I forget the name of it but remember reading about it ) but it's very uncommon for it to happen . I just personally couldn't mentally do that so I opted for the pills as I was extremely traumatized after first time I took the pills I wanted no one or nothing near me down there . That was just me.

Your hormones are still racing you're probably still in shock and even PTSD . So of course you are scared and thinking the worst case scenario that it may affect your fertility but know the risks are small and you have to try and stay positive or you will go mad. I was heartbroken every single time I had to take the tablets again and the strength it took from me to remain positive and know my body would heal and I would love and protect it and in the future I will have happy healthy children with the right man. It's really tough on us psychologically you have to dig deep and be strong and not go to the worse case scenarios! I know it's hard hun and my heart breaks for you. But you will recover health and happy but the mind plays a vital roll in our overall health you have to protect your mind and thoughts and have a strong mental attitude to get through this ❤️ xxx

@Tinydancer222

I feel the same about the surgical procedure as you did, the thought of it really does traumatise me and I’m gonna be over thinking about it all the way till Monday. I was considering to just take the pill again and I can still change my mind however I have a feeling the pill won’t fully get rid of the clot and I’ll have to take it again like you did, which will drag out the whole abortion. Both options have risks but the surgical one is definitely worse even though the risks are rare I don’t know how I’d live if it effected my fertility or stopped me having children in the future but maybe I’m just overthinking as a lot of people have the surgical procedure and are absolutely fine and recommend it. I’m glad I spoke to you as you made me realise the pills are way safer and you’re right it does effect you mentally having to keep taking the pills and doing the bleeding process all over again but there’s less long term risk. I’ll need to have a think as I’d love to have the surgery so the clot can be fully removed but the risks (as rare as some of them may be) are very severe and could be life changing. Thank you so much for the support and for still replying to me, means a lot ❤️x

Your so welcome hun you can mesage me anytime no matter how much time has passed reach out to me and ile help in whatever what I can. It's only people who have been through this before like the women on her here who could truly help me so reach out any time .

The second and third time I took the pill it was fine nothing no compared to the pain and blood of the first time . It was just mentally hard on me as I never wanted my abortion I only had my abortion as the baby's dad left and I didn't want to pass on generational trauma to my my baby as my dad left me . So it was physically hard or as painful as the first time for me it was all mental. Wanting to rush and move on but life doesn't work like that I had to learn to process it and sit with my emotions no matter how difficult they are .

The surgical one was just an absolute no for me I would have took 10 more tablets than that . I cried and begged for more tablets and no D&C. The nurse hearts was broke when she seen how distraught I was. Plus I was also terrified of them hurting me and damaging me so I trusted my body and let my body do its job . But that's me hun I have also heard women having them and being absolutely fine . I've read so many story's on here and other forums saying that . Sit with what you think you feel is best. Don't act in fear ? You can do tablet maybe one more time if that doesn't work decide from there or just have the surgical done first and trust and beleive you will be okay. Seek more medical advice don't be afraid .

I know your brain is on overdrive right now . Talk to a nedical professional if you can who is understanding and will be patient with you and also and abortion counselor. Sending you a big hug . This will all be over soon xx ❤️