Better to terminate or keep baby if not 100%

[Oddsox1]

Come to the realisation I'm never going to be sure what the right decision is. Unplanned second pregnancy. Keep changing my mind as to whether I want it or not. Do I go ahead with a termination I'm not 100% sure about? Or keep a baby I'm not 100% sure about? Seems like an impossible choice.

Hi hun this was me in may and it was horrific . O decided to terminate and have since fallen into a deep depression and regret it enormously. No one told me how painful it would be afterward and I feel like part of my soul is broken . I can't tell you what to do unfortunately but I want to advise you make sure you are 100% before you decide and I panicked and made my decision and would give anything in this world to undo it . You have to be so mentally strong for the aftermath after an abortion and no one talks about this or warned me I wish they did . So my advice do not listen to anyone else or your head listen to your heart and soul . Mind yourself hun this time is tough for you I know xx 💕

i dont think anyone is ever fully 100% a baby. its a big life change and a lot of people can panic- i know it did and terminated. it was the biggest mistake of my life. i wish i had listened to my heart. i think the unplanned nature can throw things but about half of prengnanies are unplanned its not that everyone else has babies exactly when they had planned then/ as someone said its worth accessing counselling to help you process the reasons for different options and which outcome feels most comfortable to make. you have time. i rushed into mine and didnt talk to a counsellor which i really regret as it stopped me processing beyond the suprise to thinking through what i wanted. wishing you all the best with making the decision

What are your circumstances? How old is your other child? What's the Dad say?
All things to consider.

Personally, I love having two and don't find it any harder than one, but every situation is unique.

Take your time to decide! No one can think clearly when a surprise like this comes along. But so many times, the best things in life are not what we planned. Hope you'll be able to come to a decision you feel good about.

Hey @Oddsox1 , can I ask what you decided to do? I am in a very similar situation. Thanks x

We're going ahead with the pregnancy. I'm still not over the moon about it, but I'm trying to think of the positives and hopefully it'll end up being a good thing for our family.