Good morning everyone,
so sorry if this upsets anyone or the topic offends but I feel just writing how I’m feeling will possibly help others with the misinformation surrounding abortions in Scotland.
I am 32, happily married for the last 7 years and we both have children from seperate relationships. He has a son at 11 and myself a daughter at 13, both neurodivergent but we cope well and our family unit is very strong.
we have finally started managing to afford holidays and a better quality of life and unfortunately I got hit with the bombshell I am pregnant. This isn’t something we ever thought would happen considering he had a vasectomy one year ago, again because we didn’t want children, and we spoke about this at length.
we both spoke about this and agreed that we wouldn’t want to continue with this pregnancy.
I am not proud to say that I have had two abortions previously. One when I was 15 (surgical) which was a byproduct of rape unfortunately and a medical abortion at 16.
when I found out I was pregnant I done the stupid thing and googled everything and mainly medical abortions at home. I have read every single thread on mumsnet from the good to the bad and managed to work myself up so badly that I had a mental breakdown. I read online that surgical abortions were not offered in Scotland anymore and I just wanted to make this thread incase it helps anyone else.
I have weighed up every option, And for me the surgical is better and would suit my mental health better. For me personally there’s too many unknowns with a medical and I would hate to be the small percentage for whom it is excruciating and then feel trapped. I have severe health anxiety and struggle to even take tablets. This all came on in my thirties out of nowhere.
I genuinely can’t remember much from being 16 or how it was.
if you are from Scotland and are worried that you’re not able to have a surgical abortion, you absolutely are. I have felt so much better since making the decision to have this done surgically. I am just over 4 weeks and will be around 6 weeks when this is all finished with. I will have MVA under a general anaesthetic. Please don’t feel alone either and my PM is always open if you want to discuss anything. It’s been an extremely horrible and dark time for me,
but you absolutely have the choice as to how this is carried out.
thanks for reading guys, sorry it’s so long winded.