Hey. 4 weeks pregnant and really struggling mentally I've had my heart broken Me and my ex broke up few days ago and the next day I found out I was pregnant I told him so but he was so nonchalant about it which was weird because he always wanted a baby I feel like he is back with his ex playing happy families and its breaking my heart he said to me that he wants to coparent its so hard and I just feel so much anger and resentment towards him He promised he wouldn't leave and would stick by me and he's actually done the worst thing possible
we were together 8 months we clicked or I thought so we were both lonely and lost we originally met before but I knew he had a girlfriend then things between them didn’t go really well as he said they have been together for 12 years and he used to say he was doing everything for her and she just wouldn’t care he wanted a baby but she barely wanted to sleep with him she will ignore him take him from granted he bought a house trough the bank as joint tenancy for both and I know how bad is going to sound but we were dating and he was still there in the house because he said he couldn’t afford to rent because of the new business he started I was so in love i did not want to lose him so I agreed on anything for example waiting for him to end officially things he was still in the house but he always had me around his finger he would come over to my place at morning spend time together like we are couple then he will go it was very painful for me but I couldn’t stop he was really nice to me and understanding and love bombing me but then 5 months passed he still did not end things with her and our fights started he was constantly disappointed from me for bringing things up asking when and when up till that moment when I end things and was motivated to forget about it because it was feeling like a big manipulation and gaslighting I started going out with one guy and the guy would post stories and my ex would see every time he then started calling me randomly at night to tell me he can’t live without me and that this is not how things should end and that he broke up with her and blah blah I fell for it I went back to him but this time he would stay over my place at the nights and then the whole day he would be somewhere he used to say he works I was overwhelmed I would see him only at nights we started fighting again I would ask questions like why you are still together on the social media he will get angry tell me I don’t understand that his life will go to shit if he deletes it I wasn’t allowed to post anything with him or about him and I couldn’t take it anymore we broke up but I still love him then I found out I was pregnant he used to say he loves me and I’m the best thing that happened to him and he can’t wait to go trough life with me his family is over for the weekend and he is in his house now his ex is also there so they are playing happy family he is ignoring me my feelings and the baby he just wants to coparent he doesn’t want us to be a family and I’m so sad it’s so shocking I thought that the baby will make us stronger but he is different person now it’s like I’m talking to complete stranger what should I do I’m still in early stage of pregnancy im 25y I’m renting he is 35y having his business and house I still love him but he literally broke me into pieces im mentally broken to the point of not wanting to eat or drink just hide from the world I don’t know what to do should I give him some time should I just get abortion I don’t want to raise baby on my own When I ask him if he loves me he is saying that it doesn’t matter we will only talk about coparenting and that I should put my feelings aside and think for the baby’s future he also said that when we did it we were drinking and that the baby might not be healthy it’s like he was pushing me to go and abort it what should I do am I being hardly manipulated and gaslighted from a narcissist or am I not ok ???