Twins on pre-termination scan... heartbreaking

[EmptySails]

I have a copper coil fitted and found out that it hasn't worked only a couple of days after a missed period. I'm now 6 weeks along and went to have the coil removed and get my pills to end the pregnancy today.

They did a scan to check everything over first (high risk of ectopic pregnancy with the iud)... and there are 2 yolks.

I feel absolutely shattered emotionally. Somehow this is so much worse than one embryo... even though my reason for the coil / abortion is because I don't want and couldn't cope with any more babies... I 100% couldn't cope with 2!

I was so shaken up that the coil removal was horrific, they couldn't manage it as I was in so much pain, and have booked me in for surgical in 3 weeks.

How i am supposed to wait another 3 weeks I do not know... I already have awful sickness, exhaustion, sore boobs... my DD is noticing how out of it I am atm and I feel like an awful mum.

I couldn't read and run. I'm so sorry you're in this predicament where you're having to make hard choices. Only you know what's best for you right now with the information you have at hand. 💐fwiw, hearing that there are 2 yolks would rattle me to/ somehow be a different decision

OP this must have really rattled you. No wonder your symptoms are so strong. Like @Worryer I feel like I’d also somehow feel it was a different decision to make. That’s rough when you have already taken the time to make a painful decision in the first place. Thinking of you.

Hi @EmptySails you’ve been so supportive to me on my thread and I’m really sorry to hear you’re having such a bad experience. I couldn’t have waited another 3 weeks, is there anyway you can ask for an earlier appointment or cancellation? Or for them to try to remove the coil again? Having twins must have really thrown you, but bringing up 2 babies would be hard.

Thank you all so much for your kind words and understanding. I'm just shell-shocked I think.
I spoke to a wonderful nurse at the hospital today as I've been so sick I've needed medication (this happened in my first pregnancy too and was one of the reasons I was so keen to stay one and done).
She said the risk of carrying on with this pregnancy would be huge... either we take the coil which could lead to a miscarriage, or they leave the coil which could cause all kinds of issues and potentially disabilities to the babies. Not to mention the risks associated with twins in a straightforward pregnancy. My daughter's pregnancy and birth was very difficult and we had a stay in Nicu afterwards, so I'd be high risk even for one.
All of these point to me making the right choice terminating the pregnancy, but every day I'm waiting now makes it harder.
I'm on the cancellation list and they will try to get me in under a local anaesthetic as it's a shorter list. Just feeling very sorry for myself today.

You just wouldn’t expect a copper IUD to fail - you could never have foreseen that. I’m so glad you got such a kind sounding nurse today. The world needs a little more kindness

@EmptySails you have every right to feel sorry for yourself! I hope you can get a cancellation as soon as possible. Your story does scare me as I’d planned to get a coil fitted as soon as I’m able to!

Exactly this. I wasn't playing with fire, I've been very sure in my decision to stop at 1 child since she was tiny and this seemed the best way!
The hospital staff and my GP have all been so lovely, and I'm so hormonal I've cried on every one of them so far! After some of the horror stories I've seen on here I feel so lucky to have had this brilliant support from the NHS. It's just the wait

@TooOldToBePregnant it's not a great advert for the coil is it? But it's served me well for 5 years and I'm going to have another put in after all this is over. Statistically it's still very good, doesnt mess with hormones, and while I am very pro-abstinence atm I'm sure that won't last forever 😂

Hope you’re doing ok OP

Thanks @Poster57 💕
I'm in hospital at the moment on a drip thanks to HG.
I'm still going ahead with the termination as heartbreaking as that is. The last couple of weeks have been so hard on my DD and when I see her I know its the right thing. I can't do another pregnancy like this, not to mention we don't have the money or space or emotional capacity for twins (not even one baby!), it just wouldn't be fair.
The procedure is booked in for Tuesday (they bought it forward about 3 days) and everyone at the hospital has been so nice.

@EmptySails really feel for you with the HG. It’s brutal. I ended up the same when pregnant with my daughter, the drip is the only thing that helps.

I’m so glad everyone at the hospital is being so kind. Will make a big difference to you.

Just a little update - it's all over, the procedure was very straightforward and I already feel better physically and emotionally.
The doctor told me that with the position of the sac and the coil, any pregnancy would have been very high risk and unlikely that the babies would have developed properly.
All of this was done through my GP and local Hospital (I'm in the midlands), probably due to the copper coil risk they never signposted me to another agency.
Home safe and sound now, a little more tender than before but there isn't much bleeding and overall I'm much better. Feeling very grateful for the NHS and the start of the school holidays so no rushing around!
Thansk everyone for your support x

Wishing you a safe and smooth recovery xx

I’m glad it went well and you are feeling a bit better @EmptySails 🥰.