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Surprise pregnancy

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Inneedofadvice83 · 05/07/2024 09:47

I've never posted before but really in need of some advice and from the posts I've read it's a great place to come.

I'm about to turn 41 with an 8month old, 9yr old and 8yr stepson. We tried for 2.5yrs for our latest, I suffered a miscarriage after a year of trying which I found devastating but after another year and a half of trying a healthy perfect girl which I'm thankful for.

The thing is, I've just found out I'm 17weeks pregnant. Due to still breastfeeding I had no periods or symptoms so it's come as a complete shock. My partner is sure he doesn't want another and I hear and agree with most of what he says. We don't have the room, money, help available and it would change all of our lives.

I just need advice on what to do. I feel like I can't make my mind up, ive known a day and i need to decide today. We've found out so late and I'm so wracked with guilt but if I were early i would of decided to end the pregnancy. If i continued with the pregnancy I'd have 2 under 1years, a 10yr old and 8yr old. Plus I'd still need to return to work as we can't afford to survive on one wage.

There's just so many things to think about and literally no time to think. Help.

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EmptySails · 07/07/2024 09:04

How are you doing OP? Did you make a decision or do you have any support appointments booked?
Try not to be too hard on yourself, you can't help it that you found out late, and guilt won't help.
Hope that whatever you decide works out best for you and your family.

Inneedofadvice83 · 07/07/2024 12:51

EmptySails · 07/07/2024 09:04

How are you doing OP? Did you make a decision or do you have any support appointments booked?
Try not to be too hard on yourself, you can't help it that you found out late, and guilt won't help.
Hope that whatever you decide works out best for you and your family.

I'm not sure how I'm doing in all honesty.. in a haze I think. I have booked a counselling session for tomorrow to decide after hopefully.

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EmptySails · 08/07/2024 05:14

Counselling sounds like the best thing, I did the same and they were so nice and non-judgemental that it made me cry!
Good luck with everything

NeonCarrot · 15/07/2024 20:40

Also hoping you can find a way though this that you feel good about. If it feels impossible to go through with the abortion, adoption might be the way out of this for you. Others may judge but all that matters is what you feel in your heart is the best thing to do. So sorry you are in the middle of all this while you care for your little one.

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