Hello - I’m looking for advice/help from anyone who has been in a similar position. Me and my partner have been together for 7 years and have a great relationship. He has two teenagers from a previous relationship (they stay with us twice a week) and we have a 4 year old together. We both work, have a decent amount of disposable income and own our own house (although it is only a three bedroom). After we had a little one, my partner made it clear that he didn’t want any more babies - we have a large age gap and he is in his late 40’s. I totally understood this, and although I would happily have had loads more babies, made peace with it. We have a pretty great life, our little one is about to start school so we were looking forward to getting a bit of our life back and into a normal routine. He was also planning to retire from his military job early next year and start his own business. Last Friday I found out that I’m 4 weeks pregnant. It is absolutely a massive shock for both of us - I take the pill religiously. The night we found out we both cried and talked at length - he was very comforting and listed a thousand reasons why having another baby will be really hard and negatively impact our life. We don’t have a spare room, it’ll negatively impact on the attention we can give to our other children (at least in the short term). More than anything he just doesn’t want another baby, he’s done with babies. We’ve talked about termination, which is what he wants. It’s what I thought I wanted too, but the closer I get to the consultation appointment the more I realise I just don’t think I can go through with it. Rationally I know all his reasons are true, but something in my heart/gut is screaming at me not to do this. I’ve taken the pill religiously since our little one was born so we both know this is no one’s fault and is a one in a million accident. I am massively torn - go with my heart and tell him I can’t go through with the termination, forcing him to have a baby he doesn’t want, and in the short term make his/our life so much harder. Or go with the decision he wants and go against everything I feel inside? A huge part of me feels that everything happens for a reason and this pregnancy is a gift in disguise long term. I love him and our life so much - I am absolutely terrified by the thought that he would find this too much and leave - meaning I have to split custody of our 4 year old, which would destroy me. I have no idea what to do and am desperately struggling - please help?