Can't belive I'm pregnant :(

[EmptySails]

I have a copper IUD
I'm 3 days late ... not unusual as I've had a lot of stress lately
Just tested and it's so positive I could cry
Had the coil because it's super effective... well apparently not!
Been with my partner for 2 years, life is good, we don't want children - already have 1 DC from a past relationship and everything is great how it is
Financially this is a terrible thing.
My last pregnancy broke me. I was poorly physically and with PND
But seeing my baby makes me wonder if I could go through with not keeping this one
This is heartbreaking I don't know what to do with myself

really sorry about the difficult decision you are facing. i would access some counselling to discuss through the issues to help you make a deciision. our mind causes us such stress that its easy to get caught up in certain 'what ifs' etc and having counselling will help you explore both emotional and practical issues. dont rush the decision- it can feel you want to make a decision but take the time as its life changing either way. the decision can be hard either way but if you have accessed some support it will help you feel more confident in what decision you choose. it also helps to think what type of person you are in terms of whether you take a decision and move on or tend to overthink and regret back as again that may influence x

if you do go ahead things have moved on a lot in terms of PND- each area has a specialist perinatal mh team and you can access support during the prengnancy and after, groups etc so dont feel this pregnancy and journey will necessarily like last time

Thank you
I am the type of person to overthink. It's all I've done since I found out.
My partner has been incredible, we both agreed that it's not a good thing to happen to our family at all, but I'm going to talk it through with my therapist on Wednesday and he will back whichever decision I make.
I saw the gp this afternoon who warned me of all the risks if I continue with the pregnancy, but said he has seen successful healthy births after IUD failure... it's hard to choose the right thing and I'm sure whichever choice I make will weigh on my mind for a long time.