Unsure if should continue pregnancy

[Mumabear5]

I found out on Saturday I'm pregnant . I have 2 children 3 & 1 years.

My partner had a vasectomy in January , we were using extra protection up until last month and assumed all we would be safe now. We don't know at this point if it hasn't worked or it was still too soon ( he hasn't had the sperm check yet ) Yes, naive of us to assume it would be ok but there we go!

I haven't stopped crying since I found out , we were happy with 2 but I also can't see myself going through with a termination.

I did a clear blue which stated I'm 2-3 weeks.

I'm just wondering if anyone's been in a similar position? What did you do ?

I know I would feel so guilty for having a termination and honestly I feel like I will continue this pregnancy but both of my previous births haven't gone well ( blood transfusion and bad recovery after and Emergency C-section.

I'm also petrified of something going wrong in this birth.

Thanks for reading x

It sounds like you were being so responsible so don't beat yourself up about that please!

Im so sorry you find yourself in this position, it is never easy. But I am confident you will be fine whichever way you decide. The most important thing is to take a deep breath, stay in communication with your partner and maybe think about speaking to a professional - this could help you to reach "the right" decision. All the best to you and your lovely family xx

Hi, I have found out i have an unplanned pregnancy on Sunday too. I know I don't want it, despite my pregnancies and births being easy. I think terminating will be harder the later we leave it. So I've got the ball rolling with nupas. Had a consultation today and near the beggining was asked if I 100% want the abortion. First I said no, then yes, as I don't want to delay and have thought about it all week and got nowhere with talks with my husband. So no advice, just solidarity.

please please do access some counselling- i can provide some places who give support pretty quickly. that will allow you to process the different options and what your thoughts are about which and explore which decision feels best balancing all the different concerns

Thankyou for your replies. I have an appointment on Tuesday with a counselor and will be having a scan as well . I will hopefully come to a decision then . It feels like such a strange time at the moment.

that is good to have the counselling appointment- they can also do follow-ups if you dont make the decision in the first appointment. i know there is the time pressure and you will feel you just want to make a decision one way or another but taking a few days to be sure is important- i rushed. message if you need to. wishing you all the best.

I also have an appointment on Tuesday for a scan and will ask about counciling again. I think I am 6 weeks, and just started to get symptoms. But I didn't have regular periods.

@Bramblecrumble22 definately do seek some counselling and get as many appointments as you need to make a decision right for you x