To keep baby or abort

[Scribbless99]

Hi,

sorry if this is the wrong thread, now I know only we can make this decision as a family, however I am six weeks pregnant and I’m unsure whether to keep the baby. Me and my husband have a 11 year-old and a four-year-old, but four-year-old is a very busy boy he doesn’t leave much time for my daughter which makes me sad that she doesn’t get all the attention she needs, I don’t feel like I wanna do the baby thing again and feel like I’m a little bit too selfish now we’re both working full-time and I work nights so I don’t know that he would manage looking after three children by himself in the evenings and get up for work at 5 am , I have abortion tablets which I was due to take but I’m sitting in two minds wondering whether I should or shouldn’t go through the abortion I feel somewhere I would feel guilt about doing it and denying my son and my daughter of a baby brother or sister, but on the other hand, we have a three bedroom house in which my son and my daughter have that in bedroom now so I’m not sure how that would work. I wouldn’t expect my 11 year-old to share with the baby but my four-year-old son spectrum is not the biggest I’m not sure what the best options are. I don’t wanna regret this decision for the rest of my life but equally it’s now or never. I would never have any more children or this be the last one. Has anyone been in the situation and found any advice or any easier way to make it a decision on what right for you?

I feel that the way you are speaking it’s not for you .. but only you can make that decision

Hi Scribbles, I can't help with your decision but just wanted to check in as I'm in the same situation (not sure yet if I'm 5 or 9 weeks).
I have a 9 and 7 year old and a 3 bed house, and the 7yo is incredibly needy still. Kids would absolutely love a sibling, but we're just getting that freedom back where we can go out more as a family and enjoy ourselves, and I can't help think that it would make life worse for my existing children.
Completely torn but have booked for a counseling call today to see if that helps.
Here if you need to chat anytime x

Hi Helpme,

thank you so much for contacting me back. It’s a really hard decision in it. I think the way you just described your situation is very similar to mine and it’s really difficult to know what to do. I don’t want my other 2 to feel left out and they don’t get everything they need by having another one. I think I’m more swinging towards abortion however it’s just it’s been playing on my mind all day whether I do I don’t take the tablets. I don’t even know if part of my decision is just cause I’m terrified of taking the tablets I have health anxiety so things like that are not ideal so am I kind of just pushing it away and not doing it purely because the fact I’m scared to do that right now I’m not even too sure but I don’t really have much time left considering six weeks already. I do really feel for being in the same boat is a tricky decision, isn’t it?

It is such a hard choice! You can always take a day or two to think before you make a decision, a few days won't make a difference and it may help to have more time to think. If you're worried about the tablets is there another option you could go for instead?
I've not had a call yet but have been having heartburn for about a week so getting concerned about how far along I am, it's been so long I forgot when I got heartburn with my last two, but I know I need to make a decision soon. Hopefully the call will help.