Abortion after 20weeks

[hopeandfaith11]

Just wanted to know if anyone's been through this and if so what the process was?

I'm a very unfortunate position right now

I haven't had a termination at that gestation but I'm here to chat to if you need someone. I'm sorry you're in such a difficult situation and I'm thinking of you x

I had one at 8 weeks so apologies I'm not much help. I'm so sorry you're having to make this decision and hear to talk if you need to. Are you okay?

Thanks to you both.
I had the baby blues with my daughter but this is on another level. I can't seem to function very well. I also have exams which I need to study for in a couple of weeks. The father of the baby is refusing to get involved, or support me and is not engaging with me very well.
I initially had a high risk result for rare chromosome abnormalities, but diagnostic tests have since shown baby is fine. This has caused me to feel up and down and go through a range of different emotions.
I have brought up my feelings and emotions to the nurse last week who has booked me in with a consultant this Tuesday and referred me to mental health services as I don't think I am handling this all very well and have decided I really no longer want to be pregnant. It's not something I will be able to afford, and I really don't want to struggle anymore. I feel spread way too thin and not sure how to handle this.
The issue is I'm further along in the pregnancy then I thought. I am now 21 weeks and I haven't told anyone about the pregnancy apart from baby's dad. I have completely disengaged and disassociated with the pregnancy.
All I know is it will be surgical but wanted to hear about people's experience, and recovery of it.

Please take all the help you can get from peri natal mental health & don’t rush into anything. I was very let down and not given the help I should have been at the start of this year. I was only 5.5 weeks and even at that gestation, the mental health impact afterwards had been far worse than what I was suffering during. I had to terminate because I had become acutely suicidal through ante natal depression and anxiety. It’s an awful place to be, I can’t imagine how much harder it must be at a later gestation.

I agree with the poster above, it's really important to seek and make use of mental health services. Don't be afraid to tell them exactly how you feel. Have you ever been on medication for your mental health? Are you on any now? I've been there and had bad postnatal depression after my second born child and have been on antidepressants ever since she was born. Having a termination at that gestation will undoubtedly be a really difficult thing to mentally and physically process but you can ask the termination provider as many questions as you like. I totally understand your reasons for wanting an abortion and if it is what you decide in the end I hope everything goes smoothly for you, but try your best to be as sure as you can that it is the right one before you make that decision for definite x