Confirmed Down Syndrome at 14.5 weeks

[UncertainandLost]

Hi All, I'm 14.5 weeks and our CVS has come back today confirming that we have a baby with DS.

We are at a total loss with what to do, as we've been swinging band and forth from one thought process to another. We already have a 2 year old son and are thinking about the implications this has for him in addition to our already insanely busy lives, but then I think who are we to decide what's perfect and maybe we could make it work.

Very aware that the clock is ticking and we need to make a decision so would welcome any thoughts/experiences from others who have gone through this. We're also going in to the hospital tomorrow so I'm putting together a list of questions, if anyone can share what they found useful xx

Hi I don't have a child with DS however I do have one with additional needs, and it's HARD day to day life is hard. Schools are hard, social situations, holiday's it's all far more difficult. They are so dependent on you your life becomes worrying about them, going to their medical appointments, meetings with special needs schools. My DD has definitely suffered because of it, she's missed out on a lot to accommodate him.

Personally If I knew for certain that they had DS I wouldn't continue. For my current family and for their quality of life. That's not saying that they can be wonderful but it's just not something I could personally do.

@UncertainandLost unfortunately no advice but didn’t want to read and run -hope you’re ok. Must be an awful decision to make and must feel like there’s no right answer. Hoping you find peace with whatever road you take.

It's a personal choice, and a difficult one at that. Just want to reiterate that you are fully entitled to make that choice without guilt or stigma. It is okay to terminate. It is okay to continue the pregnancy. Wishing you the best <3

Really sorry you're going through such a worrying time. Honestly, if it were me, I would have a termination.