Getting pregnant after abortion

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Hey everyone.
I had a termination last year in May which I know in my heart and mind was the best thing to do for my existing children given the circumstances we were in at the time.
I'm not ready to have a baby right now, either, but I'd like to in the next couple of years. Although I feel I made the right decision last year, my heart holds a lot of guilt about getting pregnant again. I feel like I don't deserve to. I feel like I'll be punished somehow. If I don't manage to have another child, I will accept it but with a heavy heart. I'm 27 currently.
Can someone who has been in this situation or a similar one please tell me how pregnancy after abortion was for you? Did you have the same feelings as me and how did you overcome them?
Thank you xx

I went on to have another baby-). dont get me wrong the pregnancy was hard mentally as was paniced that something would be wrong (i still have days when i do) but i also knew that i would have been worried with any pregnancy. the baby is now 3 months old and i am very thank ful for another chance. i do have moments of sadness about who the other one may have been. so it doesn't solve tings but im glad i didn't not out of fear. the thing is we would never know what would have happened with the other pregnancy e.g something may have gone wrong anyway, they may have been unwell etc. punishment doesn't work that way- you deserve happiness- you made the decision you made at the time but that doesnt mean you cant have a heathy baby now. x

This is lovely to read. I'm glad you went on to have a healthy pregnancy and baby, as you deserve as well 💛 thank you for being honest and for your kind words x

Hello,

I terminated my pregnancy last week of April 2, 2024 and i regret it so much… i wish i could turn back time and choose not to do it.. i miss my baby so bad.

i was terrified of what will others think of me especially my family and besides my partner and i we are not financially stable although we both work full-time jobs. He wanted to go back to school this year and so do I, that’s why i chose to give up my baby..

now, im thinking to have another baby which, im not sure why, but please dont judge.. there’s this part of me that is missing and wanted something. I know i promise to my baby that i will pursue my goals, but that changed after i had the abortion.

Please read my last thread. I have been here a few times and I’m 35. I have concived no issues very quick…. No kids currently. If u know it’s not the right time. Listen to urself. Consider self judgment hard and wether u can carry the feelings of doing a termination. U know if ur heart what’s right and what can live with. Goodluck.

I was the opposite. I prayed to God to make me pregnant and punish me with whatever illness but to give me a baby and I was shameful for having the termination. I don't think I was well and it was the grief talking.

I got pregnant again 3 months later and the horrors of hyperemesis gravidarum started again but I knew how to cope better. I did want to terminate again but the difference was that I didn't call the clinic and knew the sickness would be heavy for a few more weeks.

I've had a baby girl who is now 9 months who I love adore and treasure.

You do deserve to get pregnant again. A lot of us have anxiety in early pregnancy and we don't have support to make an informed decision. We did what we thought was best at that time and it's okay. I just hope we see our little angels in heaven some day xx

Hey @shelby1102, I'm sorry you had to go through something you now regret. It's so hard mentally. In this time, put yourself first as much as you can and take care and all the time that you need. You did what you thought was best at the time and that's all you could have done. We learn from these events. You can try again for a baby whenever you feel ready and nobody has a right to judge you no matter what. I hope you're doing ok? Stay strong x

Hi @heartbroken22. We are all so hard on ourselves when we go through times like these when I wish we could show ourselves some empathy - it feels so hard! I am so happy to hear you went on to have another baby and you pushed through the difficulties you faced the first time around, you should be so proud of yourself for that! I'm glad your baby girl has given you the blessing you deserve and always did. Thank you for sharing your story and for being so kind to me. I hope we get to see our babies again one day too, until then I hope my loved ones that have passed are holding them tightly for me x