3rd baby

[Ellie0118]

Can’t stop thinking about whether or not we should have a 3rd baby? Our first baby took 4 years to conceive and I was worried the whole time that something would go wrong, 2nd was a Covid baby so feel like I never got a nice pregnancy (appointments alone, no visitors etc) We’ve really said for ages that we didn’t want a third and I thought my husband was a definite no but now he’s saying he’s not sure. The thought of sleepless nights worries me and the fact that I’ll be 40 next feb, but now childcare costs snge improved or will by the time we’d have a baby it’s making me unsure. Our girls are 3 and nearly 5. I just can’t decide. How much harder will life be? Or would we regret not doing it while we can?

I've got 3 and it's not much harder. The first 3-4 weeks are hard whilst you adjust your family and things. But it works.

I had a shock 3rd pregnancy had no advice everybody was panicking me. Peri natal anxiety and experiences with previous pregnancy took over along with bad sickness. My second was a covid baby too, had dental issue, really bad sickness (hypermesis). Don't think I healed from the trauma. In the end had no support and got the termination. Instantly regretted it. Got pregnant again 3 months later and had the same feelings but this time I had my own emotional support. Hung on and now have my beautiful baby girl. I still carry grief and trauma from the termination.

I'd say if your having doubts then don't go with the abortion. Once you have a termination it can't be undone. Sleepless nights etc are temporary and go away. Honestly it's not that much hard. I was scared about hotels and cars etc but no you just adjust. We haven't had to buy a bigger car like a 7 seater and haven't had any issues with hotels.

Hi Ellie0118 - I read your post as though you are considering whether to try for a 3rd, and are not actually pregnant?
I have 3 (now adult) children, with 3 years between each, so similar to what yours would be. Not sure how relevant my experience is to how things are nowadays, but I didn't find it much more difficult, once I'd adjusted (to being 'outnumbered' as it were). In hindsight I wish I'd had 4, but OH wasn't keen so we stuck at 3.

Thank you so much for your reply. I’m not actual pregnant yet but it’s good to hear your experience.