Having abortion and feel so sad

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Hi all,
Please be gentle on me as I feel so awful as it is.

I'm 26 and have recently found out that I'm pregnant, I'm about 8 weeks.

I have a termination booked for tomorrow and I just feel so awful about it.

The reasons for it are that I just do not feel as though it is the right time for a baby. I'm moving in to my first house this summer, am working my way up in my career and am enjoying being care free at the moment.

I was also going out and drinking heavily in the first 7 weeks as I didn't know that I was pregnant - this is a massive factor as I wouldn't forgive myself if I have caused damage to the baby.

If it was this time next year I would be overjoyed, but I just think that the timing is wrong.

I am feeling so awful about the whole thing and also sad although from all that I have mentioned above I know that it is the right choice.

I'm not sure what I'm looking for by writing this thread, but I suppose those who have been through it maybe? How did you feel? Does the guilt get easier? Thanks in advance

Unfortunately for me, some 40 years later and 2 adult sons, I do still feel guilty, but it was the right decision in my case, but no it doesn’t go away, but you have to do what’s right for you. Many people do fall pregnant by mistake, so drank alcohol with no effects on baby, obviously drugs is a different matter. Whatever you do, it’s your choice to make.

@Mindymomo thank you so much for sharing your experience. Sorry to hear that you still feel guilt this long after.

Definitely no drugs have been consumed, but the alcohol and vapes are worrying me. I definitely haven't been looking after myself as I would if I had known that I was pregnant.

I also think would I be stupid and selfish to terminate this pregnancy, but start trying at the end of the year. I'm not sure if that would be stupid of me to do as it's not that far away. I didn't think that I would find it this difficult but it's awful

I'm another who also still feels guilt over 40 years later. I have 3 adult children now, but still feel that there is someone missing from my family. For me I don't think the guilt and grief will ever go away. It's different for everyone though, and for every pregnancy, so you should make the decision that's right for you, and that you will find easiest to live with.

Hey, I’m just wondering what you ended up doing? I have a termination booked for this week and I just can’t shake the feeling I have even though I had decided it was the right thjng to do. Thanks! X