Positive pregnancy test but don't know if I can keep it

[winolo]

Hi everyone, please be gentle on me because I feel awful.

Im 26 and have just found out that I'm pregnant.

I know that I do want to become a mother one day, but not sure if im ready right now. I still live at home with my parents and my partner lives here with us too while we save for a house deposit.

I don't know if I am ready for my life to change right now and really don't know what to do.

I don't know what I'm even looking for on this thread, but maybe some experiences of those who have gone through this?

I feel so stressed, I also feel so guilty because I know that there are people who are unable to have children / struggle so that makes me feel as though I should be happy

@winolo often I wonder it links to taking more risks when younger as I definitely went into it blindly. Being that young there is almost less to sacrifice (in a strange way) - compared to when I was slightly older, with a career and a good rhythm and I guess I knew myself more.

With both pregnancies I also had a million questions. It can feel like you are going round in circles but definitely try and see if a counselling service helps. Whether you choose to keep the pregnancy or not abortion clinics often offer counselling.

You are still young. I hope you take your time with this and do what works for you x

"I haven't met anybody who has chosen to go ahead with the pregnancy and regretted it (there must be some out there) but from my friends everyone who has had a child young and been unsure has said it's the best thing that they have ever done."

I've not met anyone who has admitted to regretting going ahead either, though as you say there must be some out there. Maybe it's more common in those who weren't sure if they wanted children? You seem sure that you do one day, and it's just the timing that is making you question going ahead?

I had a 2nd unplanned pregnancy at age 24, and went ahead with it, I have never had any regrets. For me it was the right thing to do. In my case it was partly because I knew I couldn't cope with another termination, after struggling so much with the one 4 years earlier.