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So stuck on what to do, abortion or carry on?

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Unblossomedflower · 01/02/2024 02:20

Hi all, after reading 1000s of posts and threads on here I thought I would finally make my own. I think writing my feelings down might help me.
I am really struggling with a decision. I know in my head the right thing would be to abort. I wouldn't be able to cope. Mentally, it would be hard with 3 children for me as a single parent, school runs, days out, kids bedrooms, everything will change. I know it won't be forever but I didnt cope so well after my last child either so worry this will happen again. Financially I worry too as I already struggle at the moment sometimes and I worry that bringing another child into that would only make things worse.
But then my heart is telling me to keep the baby. I know my children would adore a sibling, I have more love to give another baby, I had 2 miscarriages before my first and I didn't cope well at the time.
I think if I went through with an abortion I would struggle afterwards and I don't know if that's something I would be able to live with, but can I financially and mentally support myself and 3 other children and give them a good happy life? I'm not sure in the point of this post to be honest, I really wish I didn't feel this way, I wish I was in a better situation. But I just feel like I should follow my head, but will my heart be missing a piece of it forever? :) thankyou for reading

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Unreliablenightmare · 01/02/2024 07:33

@Unblossomedflower hi. I'm just here to say I'm going through this. I have two children and also miscarried twice. I think I was suffering from perinatal anxiety and was so anxious and overwhelmed by the thought of a third (not a single parent). I went through with the termination and was expecting to feel some relief like others that I'd read about. I'm at the worst I've ever felt and massively regret it. If there's part of you that wants this baby, sit down and make a plan for it. Not pros amd cons but how you can make things work around the baby. You'll know if you could manage then. I'm devastated by the decision I made (2 weeks ago) and there's no way for me to go back. Only you know though but I'd say the short term worries I had seem really insignificant now.

The difference for me is I'm not single. Wishing you all the luck in the world. This is an awful decision to make ❤️

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