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Medical abortion at 7 weeks on the NHS

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Jxw · 24/01/2024 14:10

Hi all

long winded post ahead!

I have just been through a medical abortion at 7 weeks gestation on the NHS and wanted to share my experience with you all as I found much comfort from mumsnet whilst going through the process, I just hope to be able to help at least one person.

At just 3 weeks I found out I was pregnant. My husband and I decided within that week we weren’t in a position to keep it so I started contacting round to arrange a termination. I had hoped to get straight on with it, but the only NHS funded place in my area is the local hospital and they will not proceed with anything until you are at least 6 weeks gestation.

i booked the appointment for what we believed to be 6 weeks and in the meantime whilst waiting went through hell with all day every day ‘morning’ sickness

At my appointment, the hospital were amazing, I cannot praise them enough. They run 2 clinics a week for abortions, it was obvious all the other women were there for the same thing and I felt like we had a mutual understanding between us despite not talking to each other.

first off I had a dating scan and had the option to keep the screen turned off. This is where I found out I was actually 7 weeks, so a little further on than expected.

I then had to give a urine sample and they took bloods for checking. I was seen by a counsellor to check it was definitely the right decision, and then a doctor to go through medical history and talk through the process.

once the blood results came back and everything was ok, I was given the first tablet there with the doctor. I was then given the choice to either come back into hospital 2 days later for the final stage or take the tablets home instead. I opted to go home (they said that over 9 weeks gestation you have to do the termination within hospital but because I was under 9 weeks I had the choice).

I had to wait 48 hours before taking the next tablets and during this time was told bleeding may happen but for most it doesn’t. Within 24 hours I started bleeding, nothing much but I passed something which I’m still not sure if it was the pregnancy or a clot.

at 48 hours I took anti sickness tablets, ibuprofen and the first 4 tablets orally. Within a few hours of this the bleeding had ramped up and I was passing a good number of clots. I then took the final 2 tablets orally and the bleeding continued at this heavy pace for a few hours.

throughout I had uncomfortable cramping but nothing worse than bad period pain, it was managed with over the counter pain killers and a hot water bottle. The hospital did give me codine but I never had the need to use it.

the bleeding then calmed down a few hours later and then next thing I was hit with was diharea. Bizarrely the cramps for this were worse than the ones earlier.

by evening everything had calmed down, I just felt really tired and hungry.

the next morning I woke up and was so relieved to feel human again, no sickness. I was able to return to work with bleeding similar to the heavier days on my period so completely manageable.

im now waiting for the 3 weeks to pass to do a pregnancy test but I no longer ‘feel’ pregnant so hoping it has worked.

i just really wanted to reassure anybody as I was so scared beforehand. I was worried what the hospital would think of me, yet they were amazing and non judgemental, I was worried about the process after reading some horror stories and it was all very managable.

sending positive thoughts to anybody else having to go through the same x

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Hobbes55 · 26/01/2024 02:33

Hello, I'm waiting on my first appointment to see the clinic for what I assume is a scan. This is Tuesday. I found out I was pregnant Sunday 21st Jan and the back story is this.

I've never ever wanted to be a mum. I love kids, I draw illustrations for children's books, I babysit them, I buy them xmas presents etc but I have never ever wanted my own and this has never changed all through my life. I'm 39 now and I've never fell pregnant before this due to obviously taking precautions to prevent it but this time I have which I assume was a split condom as I can't take the pill and haven't for years.

I am in a stable relationship and have been in this for 11 years, he always knew I didn't want children and he also has never had a desire to, he's of the if I wanted to he would be fine with that too.

But I just can't have a child, it's not for me. That may sound selfish but it's true. This may make people think bad of me but I'm not a bad person I just have a vision of my life and it doesn't include a child.

I feel bad having to do this as its a situation I never thought I would be in so I've never given it any thought before but now I'm just shocked by all this.

I'm scared of what I have to do and I'm scared of whether it makes me a bad person but I just know in my heart I would regret having a child. Of course I would love them and raise them but I wouldn't be happy.

I know this is a place for mums but I have no where else to go. I saw your post and how recent it was and felt compelled to reply.

Thanks for the advice and guys please dont think badly of me. I already feel stressed enough.

Thanks.

Jxw · 26/01/2024 13:01

Hey, no bad thoughts here. Everyone has their own reasons for going through this and we are just here to support each other through it.
I hope everything goes ok for you and sending good wishes for your appointment on Tuesday x

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Hobbes55 · 27/01/2024 08:33

Thank you. I'm scared and anxious, feel guilty but sure I need to do this. Such a head spin though. Never did I expect to even have to think about it. Life aye. Glad all went safe for you. X

Jxw · 27/01/2024 21:40

All totally normal emotions to be going through, just try not to beat yourself up ❤️

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Yht · 11/09/2024 20:50

I'm due to get the pills from a clinic in a few days. I didn't have a pleasant first consultation. I didn't get any support or compassion. I'm already beating myself up and feel like the worst person in the world. I haven't stopped crying.
I have two children who are older and I know I would struggle to cope with a third. I don't want to fall apart for the children I do have.

A part of me wonders what if I'll be ok. But in reality, we can't afford it, we don't have supportive families, they are more of a stress.

It feels like an impossible decision.

Jxw · 12/09/2024 08:34

Yht I’m sorry to hear you haven’t had support at your initial consultation and don’t have the family support either, that’s rubbish.

I think what you are feeling is completely normal, if you know it is the right decision for you and your circumstances, please don’t beat yourself up.

My baby would have been due last week and I had a little wobble thinking about what could have been, but at the same time I know I made the right choice. We’re still allowed to get upset even if you know it’s the right decision.

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Yht · 12/09/2024 20:58

Thanks Jxw. I needed to hear that. I just want to get it done and over with now. Sorry you had to go through this too.

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