Would you keep unplanned pregnancy in disfunctional marriage

[Miselka666]

Hi there,

I found myself in a nightmare situation.

I'm married with 20y older man, 5y married, not happy marriage even though we tried until recently quite hard to make it work.

Our last heated argument has lead to naming things for what they are and divorce was discussed, moving out, separation etc. I've got 11yo kid from previous relationship so I guess we hesitate to end it for that reason as well..

Anyway, we got into argument, things were named, I left for a week to clear my head, I accepted the fact it's pretty much over, looked for new house for me and my kid, seriously, I thought that's it.

Well, right after I returned, I found out I'm pregnant. And I am now torn apart. Shall I proceed in disfunctional marriage, when I know pretty much for sure I'll be on my own, mostly likely we'll separate anyway. Or should I terminate the pregnancy, even though deep down I feel that's why I don't want?

I've got last 24h to decide and I'm getting very anxious about it. Please tell me something what will make it think about it from different angle..

Could you do it alone? Your eldest is 11 and at a nice age.

I'd say if you want the baby keep baby but get rid of the man whose making it hard for you to live together. You've got a problem with the man and not baby right?

If you want the baby keep it and get rid of him! Sounds like you were unhappy with him before…

I agree with the other writers, if you split up you'd get half of all the money and property unless you signed those rights away before marriage. He would also be responsible for supporting this child as the biological father. If things are not working out and he is not willing to try, or to get counselling, you might want to end the relationship. He might change his tune after the baby comes (or his parents, if they're in good health) and want to parent part time, then you would have an easier time. I'm sorry you got pregnant at such a bad time, but that doesn't mean your baby can't still be a blessing in your life. Be strong and assertive, and don't let him push you into anything. If you know what you want, trust in yourself.