Abortion help

[purple47]

Hi.

So I'm 6 weeks 3 days with my first I had to go through ivf so I didn't know I could get pregnant naturally. We did maybe want one more but my son is still young and we're exhausted as it is. I've tried to get my head around it but Even when I seen the early scan I felt nothing. I feel awful but I think an abortion is right for our family and my partner will definitely always be using a comdom now.

But is it normal to feel so guilty even though I know it's the right decision for us. I also feel so exhausted already struggling to look after my son.
I've done an online form for an abortion so I have some more days to think about it but I'm 90% certain it's what we want. My last pregnancy I was in bed all the time til atleast 16 weeks my partner doing extra and I still feel awful just getting through the day like if the pregnancy was planned mayve I'd go ahead but as it wasn't I just think mentally it's too much I do just feel awful like im gonna be punished for doing it /something bad is going to happen but another part of me is like I've had miscarries early and it's like well your under 12 weeks it's one of those things so that could happen anyway

Dear Purple47,
First of all - congratulations on having this new little life growing inside of you. What a miracle! I know you are exhausted and your first child is still young - but this season will pass.

At 6 weeks pregnancy - your baby's heart has already started beating at 21 days from fertilisation. It is amazing!

Sorry to hear you have suffered miscarriages in the past - I know that is painful - because a child has been lost, but please don't intentionally take the life of this precious little one. Many women who go through with abortion say they don't just feel the loss of the child as in miscarriage, but also the guilt because the child's death was at their decision. As well as this child being unique and irreplacable - you may never get another chance to have another child.

I know you are going through a lot mentally and physically, and your hormones are probably everywhere due to the new pregnancy - but that too will pass. You are strong enough and there is help and support out there if you need it. You can visit https://www.hopepregnancy.org.uk/ for further advice, information and support.

Praying for you and your precious baby.
With love,
Ruth

Hi Hun,

Must've been quite a shock. Overwhelming, exhausted and stretched to the limit already right? Totally get that, been there on quite a severe scale too.

There is support and there's always a better way. Abortion is seen as a quick fix in the short term, but really it's not your young offspring's life you want to end, but from the sound of it, you're wanting a solution and support to get out of a crisis. I believe the person below has sent a link to hope pregnancy? Checking them out they look like a great organisation who could help you.

Emotions change and are temporal, I'm sure you have taken a great deal of time to process and think about things, I'm concerned that you feel guilt, which could indicate that maybe there's still a little more exploring to go? I would encourage to check out the hope pregnancy organisation, there's nothing to lose, especially if it could change everything.

You and your baby deserve better 💝