Abortion die to sickness

[ChaTom]

Has anyone had an abortion because they couldn’t cope with pregnancy sickness? I’m considering this at the moment (currently 9+3 weeks pregnant) but my head is a mess and I feel guilty.

I already have two autistic children (aged 9 and 7), have recently come out of an abusive relationship and this pregnancy was unplanned. I’m being sick all day and night. I’ve been prescribed promethazine and now cyclizine but I’m taking the maximum dose and feeling even worse. I’m struggling to keep down my antidepressants and I feel my mental and physical health is shattered. The father wants the baby and I don’t feel he understands how much I’m struggling. I feel terrible for considering an abortion but I’m struggling to even shower or brush my teeth, let alone take care of my children and our pets and home.

How are you doing? Have the medicines started to help at all? Was this a problem with your other pregnancies, or did it just start up with this one? I'm so sorry, it sounds awful what you're going through and that's a hard mindset to make the choice to abort from. I'm glad you got away from an abusive relationship, do you think he really wants to parent this baby, or is it a way to try to hang on to you? I hope things have started to get better for you dear. The pain from abortion can last for years for some women, so I hope you can come to a decision you feel good about.

Hi

@SnowySpa Thank you for your reply. I’m 10 weeks today and doing much better after inpatient treatment. They gave me IV (fluids, vitamins and anti-sickness). I had to discharge myself to get home to my children but they have arranged a scan tomorrow to rule out multiple or molar pregnancy. I’m feeling so much better than I was but also conscious I’m still going to be suffering for a while yet.

I had terrible sickness with my first pregnancy. It didn’t stop until I gave birth. My second pregnancy was much better by comparison.

sorry my post wasn’t clear. The abusive Ex- partner is not the father. The father of the baby is very supportive (we knew each other already but weren’t in a relationship) and I’m sure he will be an amazing father whether we are in a relationship or coparenting.

I did and unfortunately I didn't have enough support from friends family or health professionals to deal with it. People told me to abort but got on with their lives after I had the termination and it completely broke me. I got pregnant 4 months later and took b vitamins to stop the sickness. Had a lot of takeaway food. Did basic stuff in the house if nothing. I couldn't hack any smell so binned all fragrances stuff. Couldn't cook at home so ordered burgers and stuff for a few weeks. I think till week 14 and it got better. I promise you it will get better. I terminated at 8 weeks and I wish someone told me it would get better in another 6 weeks.

I'm so glad to hear your got the IV treatment and that it helped. I am so glad you're with a supportive and loving partner now, and I hope that these difficult weeks get easier so that you can both share in parenting your new baby. Thanks for the reply 🍀