Pregnancy

[Fim123]

I’m 23 and just found out I’m pregnant. I’ve been with my boyfriend (31) for 3 years & very much plan to spend the rest of my life with him.
however I don’t know what to do. I said before if I ever got pregnant at this age o wouldn’t want to keep it as I felt I wouldn’t be ready and he said okay.
However now I’m pregnant he says he would want to keep it.
hes very financially stable and he says he will provide for us but I don’t really have any money myself.
I feel like I’m too young. Like I’ve got my whole life ahead of me. I don’t really go out drinking or anytning im quite settled but it’s like my freedom will be taken from me.
I moved to another country 3 years ago also so I’m living away from all my family and I really don’t think I could do pregnancy without them. But I’ve a dog and cats and it would be a struggle if I went home to have the baby.
part of me wants it. I do want a family with him & I wokld get broody & dream about having a child but at the same time I’m like … do I even want this.
I just reallt don’t know what to do and my mum says have a think about it but im just stuck at 50/50 :(((

do you work?

so you moved countries to be with him? or met him as soon as you arrived?

When I moved there I met him basically straight away.
I did online work but wasn’t earning a lot of money and then I worked in a bar/club selling shots 😂 however not been at work for a few weeks whilst they fix the bar up

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Hi Fim, three years is a good amount of time to get an idea of whether we want to stay with a partner. If he is a good and trustworthy man, and you do eventually want to have a child, you could consider just taking the one the universe has given you. There are good things about not having responsibilities, but there are also good things about being a parent and the joys of having a child. Even if you are not married, in most countries both partners are responsible for providing for any children born to them, so he would have to help even if the relationship didn't end up working out. Since you are with someone older than you, it's good to think about where he is coming from as well, since he wants to have children while he is high energy. That way your child or children will have both of you around for more of their lives than if you wait until you're both older. An unplanned pregnancy is always scary and a shock, but sometimes when the surprise starts to wear off, we feel as if things are going to work out and be okay. I hope you can come to a decision that both you and your partner feel good about. All my best to you!