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Pregnant and concerns of postpartum psychosis /PND - husband wants termination

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everysilverliningandallthat · 05/11/2023 19:03

Hi everyone,
I’ve just found out I’m pregnant, no idea how far as I have extremely irregular periods and this is a shock (unplanned).

10 years ago following the birth of my son I experienced significant postnatal depression and subsequently my mental health spiralled and I experienced psychosis about a year later and it took a while to recover. I’m still on medication - mood stabilisers etc after I was diagnosed with a significant mental health condition. I had a relapse earlier this year and have spent the last 5 months in recovery which has taken a long time and I’m still not where I want to be yet.
Anyway, fast forward to today and my husband is adamant that we should have a termination without even a second thought. When I found out I didn’t know how to react it was such a shock, he’s gone into overdrive (as have I) and have an appointment tomorrow for a scan with a view of discussing termination options depending on gestation. But when I sit still for a moment on my own, I can’t help but wonder what it would be like to have another baby but the fear of my mental health is so strong it’s unbelievable (coupled with being unable to talk to my husband about how I’m feeling)

Not hoping to achieve anything from this, I just had to get this out of my mind and share how I was feeling.
I hope everyone on here is doing ok xx

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Saskia2023 · 05/11/2023 21:52

really feel for you its such a difficult decision but there is a lot more perinatal before and after support available around now than 10 years ago and just because you struggled last time doesnt mean things will happen the same this time. the other thing is not to underestimate the potenial impact of the termination on your mh- many women are fine but some are not and we rarely talk about this i had a termination earlier in the year as I was petrified for my mh but the aftermath from the termination was a billion times worse- im not saying that will happen to you but its thinking about the possible repurcussions either way. e.g my husband just got on with his life afterwards whereas i really struggled as if nothing else you will have a hormone drop for a few weeks after. please do not rush a decision- ask for some counselling to help work out what your feelings are. message any time its a lonely place to be in but its great you have reached out as the worst thing i did was not speak to anyone and just let the feelngs going round and round in my head x

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