Abortion at 12.5 weeks.

[Lucky2610]

Hello, I know this is touchy subject, but I really just need somewhere to express my self as I have absolutely nobody at home to talk to as I think they won’t understand. So I’m currently 11 weeks pregnant with a very wanted baby took us 2 years to conceive. Found out and I was initially very happy. Skip to 7 weeks and I was diagnosed with HG I haven’t actually left the house in 5 weeks. Aside from the HG I’ve been feeling very scarily low, very lonely, I’m getting no enjoyment out of life, I don’t move out my bedroom. I’ve even thought about suicide not that I want to die I just don’t want to feel like this anymore I keep thinking I’m making the wrong choice keeping this baby when I think of it I feel miserable and resentful. When I had my son I didn’t feel anything like this I was excited even with the sickness. I feel nothing when I see it on the scan photos. My partner is very happy and I dare not tell him I want an abortion he wouldn’t understand and I’m scared incase he wanted to leave me. I just want to have an abortion and tell him I miscarried. As awful as it sounds I’m just so so sad I cry all day, this isn’t me as a person and I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I am booked in the doctors tomorrow morning to talk to them. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you x

I am so sorry you’re feeling so unwell and are in such a lonely place. I understand the relentless horror of HG and it’s even harder if you’ve already got a little one to care for.

Your choices are your own and you have every right to make the decision that’s right for you. However, a termination at this stage without your partner’s support is a really big decision and you are not feeling physically or mentally well - that isn’t a good place from which make such a decision on your own. This is a pregnancy you wanted and the clear-headed you who doesn’t feel awful every second of the day would probably still want to be pregnant.

I would urge you to take care of yourself. Get signed off work (if you haven’t been already), ask your husband, your family, your neighbours, anyone to help you with childcare. Tell your friends how lonely you are and ask them to come see you. They will come! Take whatever medication your doctor can offer to help your HG. Be really blunt about your needs. Stay in bed for the next month if you need to!

With any luck the HG will improve by 20 weeks. Please be full and frank with your doctor. I hope s/he can support you.