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Torn and confused- early pregnancy, toxic rship

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ARABA8888 · 27/10/2023 12:52

I have recently discovered I am pregnant, literally 5 weeks.

Back story is I'm 35,have an 8 year old son and I'm a solo mum. Son and I have a good life and have worked hard to where we are.

I've always wanted more kids and was initially so excited to discover I was pregnant again.

However, the father is a man who is text book narc, very emotionally abusive, moody, misogynistic etc and is even jealous of the love I have for my son. (Not his son)Would often tell me I'm too much of a modern woman, and I should be cooking for him, cleaning and being his peace. Very red pill. Loves Andrew Tate etc.

There have been so many un happy times in our brief 6 month rship ,which was usually fuelled by his moods and silent treatment. There is a lot more I could write, but just giving an overview.

We had actually broken up but he text me his brother died, so I went to see him for Console and a listening ear. I stayed then night, we had sex. He knew I was ovulating and finished inside of me, even tho we didn't do that on my fertile days. He even said, don't worry about the MOP, which I still took anyway.

He has always wanted to get me pregnant and I once found a Google search- how to get gf pregnant fast on his phone history.

Anyway, I'm pregnant now and although initially excited, I've been trying to be logic about this. I was trying to move on from him, Start a new chapter etc. I know I would love this baby if it was to develop, however the thought of him being on our lives really frightens me and also the safety of my son.

He has been verbally abusive since I told him (I wish I didn't now), not supportive and telling me it's just a clump of cells etc. I did make an appt at marie stopes, but cancelled it.

I've not made up my mind, but would like to hear any similar experiences or advise , what you would do etc

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SnowySpa · 04/11/2023 03:11

Hi Araba, I keep thinking about you and your situation. I have several friends who have had lovely children with awful partners. I'm glad you're leaving this man. Why would he intentionally try to conceive with you and then pressure you to abort? I don't understand. Don't let him make any decision for you. I hope that if you would welcome a little brother or sister for your son, that you will do whatever you can do make it happen. Get legal advice if you are afraid of the baby's father. At 35, this might be your last good chance to have a second child. Hope to hear from you.

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