How does one get over the guilt of an abortion?

[wellygang6]

Please only kindness but I would love to know how people got over an abortion and the guilt? Thanks

Hi, how are you?
I have been struggling since July and struggling still. It something that no one prepares you to feel. Do you have a good support network? I find every day quite hard, some worse than others and you just ride the waves. Remember you had your reasons!! Speak to your gp and try counselling. I find the counselling helps. I'm here if you want a chat xx

Im the same it’s very hard but taking each day at it comes

I am 2.5 months post abortion and still finding it very hard, but I found going on a nice holiday with my family helped and also planning nice, cosy evenings at home (ie. make new memories with those you cherish!)

I had one a few years ago and it took over a year to really get over it. I was taken back by the grief and guilt. Take care of yourself. Always remember your reason and have plans for yourself. I had a low moment where I was off work for ages and did some counselling during this time. After processing my thoughts I decided to get a new job and work towards my future for whoever my future children would be (if I then had any) and I now find 5 years on I don’t regret my decision but I might think about it every now and then.

At the time I had to take it a day at a time. I did lots of journaling as well. Which I look back on - which is how I know the times were dark but time is a healer.

I'm not sure but...I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks the grief was bad and it eased after having another baby.

I had a termination at 8 weeks and it eased with time but I've not healed...I had another baby (got pregnant 3-4 months ) after the termination. I had bad bad hg but wanted to punish myself for what I did. I didn't care how sick I got I was adamant I wanted a baby. This did help and my beautiful baby girl is Amazing. But about 25% of me sometimes on bad days remembers the termination and wish I could go back in time and not do it. We all have our valid reasons for doing it. Sometimes it's lack of support and all those pregnancy hormones in our body causing fear. Forgive yourself and think about what you want? You'll gradually heal with time ur some grief will always be there.

I am several years post abortion. Sorry to say I have never got over the guilt. However I understand the reasons I did it and can see logically it was the least worst thing to do, it was very difficult circumstances.

I think be kind to yourself, no one 'wants' an abortion. Try to make the most of your life, make something positive so you have learned something from the situation and determined to do better in life. I'm not sure where people access counselling, I tried it but found the counsellor was uncomfortable and inexperienced with this subject.

Hope you are OK x