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Medical abortion

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Mich1992sun · 18/10/2023 14:36

This is my first ever post. Just looking for some reassurance, although I am very aware everyone’s experiences are different.

I found out I was pregnant 18/09/23, I did a test as I had what felt like a water infection which is rare for me & only happens during pregnancy for me. I called NUPAS in which I had a telephone consultation the day after & had a clinic appointment the day after that which was the 20/09/23.

I was scanned & told I was 5 weeks. I was certain I did not want to go ahead with pregnancy as I have a 5yo and I am still traumatised from the birth experience with him. Which has resulted in me having very bad health anxiety which I still struggle with.

we was due to go on our first family holiday on the 22/09/23 for 10 days so I was told not to take any tablets until I was home. I felt horrendous from that point on, could not enjoy the holiday as I have constantly felt sick since.

I am today 9 weeks & I have been putting off taking the tablets due to me having miscarriages in the past I thought this would be the same & I would not have to take the tablets. It hasn’t..

My anxiety is through the roof, as I know time is against me and I need to do this as soon as possible.

I just keep thinking of everything that can go wrong and I am so scared to take the first step and to get it over and done with.

i have fully prepared myself in getting heat pads, hot water bottles, big pads, pain relief.

I suppose I am just looking for some reassurance and support from other people who have been through this. It is the unknown I am scared of 😩. I have my family to support me & my partner, but I don’t seem to be getting comfort from that.
Please no judgement as I already feel a hypocrite because I have miscarried in the past.
Thank you in advance ❤️

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SnowySpa · 19/10/2023 01:13

Hi Mich1992sun, I'm sorry you are in this awful place. I mostly just wanted to say that it sounds like you are facing a lot of anxiety. I don't know what happened with the first time you gave birth, but has part of you wanted to give your child a brother or sister? Have you thought about having another? Sometimes once the idea starts to sink in, you begin to make peace with the idea. If there were complications with the birth of your first, are they things that can be managed with different care, a midwife, or a planned c-section? Anxiety is a powerful thing and I just don't want to see you make a decision based on temporary feelings if it is something you might change your mind about if you had help/counseling/birth options. Many women take the pills just to get out of a scary situation but then wish they had made a different choice. You sound a bit torn and I just hope you've really thought this through, assuming you haven't already gone ahead with the pills. Hope you can get some help so you're not facing this alone.

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