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Medical Termination

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Meadowdays · 27/09/2023 08:48

I have found out this week I am 6 weeks pregnant and booked a termination for next week. I’m terrified. I have always been against termination for myself and never thought it was a choice I would make. My reasoning is I already have a 1 year old DS and after having him I didn’t want to plan any further children as I don’t know if I would cope mentally with the demand on me.

im married but this pregnancy was unplanned and my husband supports any choice I make although I know he doesn’t want further children.

has anyone been in a similar situation and can you share your experience?

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44Jen44 · 27/09/2023 12:57

Hi I'm 6.5 weeks and trying to schedule a medical termination for this weekend. I have two children and can't afford a third. I'm absolutely petrified never thought I'd have to go through this. Perhaps we can keep in touch.x

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Meadowdays · 27/09/2023 13:58

Yes would be lovely to keep in touch. The financial side of a second child is factoring in for me too. I just don’t know how to actually go through with it. It’s so hard

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44Jen44 · 27/09/2023 15:05

It's my day off today and I have been obsessing and fearful all day, unable to switch off. I'm now trying to think of a list of things I might need or that will help

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Meadowdays · 27/09/2023 20:36

Sorry I was working all day and it helped a bit to take my mind off it. I’m not sure where to even start with what I might need. Hoping today was ok for you and you get through the next few days x

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44Jen44 · 28/09/2023 13:22

I am having a big wobble today and don't think I can put myself through it. Wonder if I should just accept and get on with it. How are you feeling today?

Bacarach · 28/09/2023 13:27

Have either of you considered adoption?
I am adopted, my natural parents (19 and 22) were too young and wanted to give me up aged 2 months. I have had an amazing childhood with two loving people who I consider to be my real parents, and know how fortunate I am as I have wanted for nothing.

I think you have both thought about this fully to have reached this decision which isn't easy by any means, its a shame more parents don't think about whether they can afford to keep kids before churning out one after the other after the other for the state to end up paying for. I wish you well whatever you decide to do.

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Meadowdays · 28/09/2023 14:50

I am completely the same I am back and forth all the time. My appointment isn’t until the end of next week so I have so much thinking time. I know that financially it would be a struggle with childcare etc but there would be food on the table and the children would be clothed. That just isn’t what I pictured for my current DC. I just don’t know if I can cope with the strain of an extra child. But at the same time I don’t know if this is enough to warrant it or I’m being selfish. It’s such a hard decision

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Meadowdays · 28/09/2023 14:51

@Bacarach unfortunately I would rule adoption straight away. I just couldn’t cope with what I would see as my child living away from me. I’m so glad you had a positive experience and a loving family though like so many others

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44Jen44 · 28/09/2023 16:30

I wouldn't consider adoption either. I took the call and ordered the pills but still don't think I will go through with it.

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Meadowdays · 28/09/2023 17:11

@44Jen44 hope your ok just take your time and do what’s right for you! Keep in touch x

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Meadowdays · 30/09/2023 16:03

Just checking in @44Jen44. How are you feeling? Hope you’re doing ok x

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44Jen44 · 01/10/2023 11:04

Hiya I'm ok, decided not to have termination will just have to make this work somehow. How are you?

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Meadowdays · 01/10/2023 14:01

I’m so happy for you that you’ve come to your decision. I’m sure although extremely difficult it gives some relief.
im ok I’m taking each hour as it comes. I still intend of going ahead this week but my head is still struggling with it so much x

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44Jen44 · 09/10/2023 10:18

Hello just wanted to check in and see how you are? Did you go through with it? I've been signed off for a couple of weeks so exhausted and nauseas.

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Meadowdays · 09/10/2023 15:31

Hi. I’m doing ok. I did go ahead with the termination last week. It’s still really hard, I’m managing during the day but the evenings are still full of tears. I do think I’ve made the right choice for us though.

im glad you got signed off to take some time. Get yourself lots of rest! How are you feeling about it all now?

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44Jen44 · 19/10/2023 16:15

Oh bless you, you were really brave and did what was best for you. I'm still in shock to be honest lol. It was fun telling my two girls 7 and 9 as it's their dream. First midwife appt yesterday. So guess this thing is really happening. Eeek

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Meadowdays · 23/10/2023 17:50

@44Jen44 so happy for you! I’m sure the girls are delighted. I really hope everything goes well throughout the pregnancy x

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Anonymous2909 · 25/10/2023 00:21

Hi there 💕 taken the 4 pills today and had worlds worst cramps and blood clots...only 3 weeks pregnant...the bleeding is very light now....is that normal or could I still be pregnant?

Hope you are all doing well 🙏

44Jen44 · 01/11/2023 09:13

I think I'm changing my mind :-( I am really struggling to get my head around this. I have gestational diabetes which is hell. But also been feeling lonely and arguing with my spouse. I'm unhappy in my job and all I want to do is focus on finding a new career, improving my health and looking after the two lovely children I have. Help

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