4 months Pregnant 🤰🏻 confused about my choices

[valer583]

So I'm 27 years old. I used to work as an escort on and off for the pass few years and have a part time job which doesn't pay much. I got pregnant with a client who wants nothing to do with it. I have never been in a relationship but want a family-husband and children for a while. I also found out through a doctor's scan 2 years ago I have lean pcos. I get regular periods, but because I have pcos I was desperate to get pregnant. I have found the whole pregnancy very hard, I'm booked for surgical abortion with Bpas next week and feel very anxious. After surgical abortion the risk of uterine scarring & I really want to get pregnant again maybe next year. After I have tried dating and to find a future husband. If i got to a certain age 30+ i would go it alone ive always thought. What would you do in this position? 😭

Hello Valer, I am so sorry for all the pain you have been through. I don't know too much about your medical condition, so you may want to think about the likelihood of being able to conceive again in the future vs. continuing the pregnancy you have now. I'm not sure where you live but in my country, even if someone is a sex worker, if paternity can be proved then the father still is obligated to provide financial support. So whether he likes it or not, if a DNA test confirms the baby is his, he will have child support taken from his paycheck. Many women get pregnant from casual relationships (the woman who lives across the street from me had a one night fling with a bloke she met at the bar, got pregnant, and decided it was time to become a mum) and you could still meet someone who would love both you and your baby. You might want to talk to a pregnancy center or other resource center who could help you figure out what aid you'd qualify for. At four months, you are surely feeling this baby moving around, maybe you know the sex too. Choosing to abort now could bring a myriad of difficult feelings for you. I hope you are not all alone with this, and have a friend or family member who can help you thought this. I hope you are able to become a mum and start a new chapter of your life, you deserve it.

Thanks for your message. I've had an abortion with bpas, but I will try dating see how that goes. If I can't find a relationship after 6 months of giving dating a go I will just try to get pregnant again. I do have regrets now, they even told me the gender afterwards. It was a boy which I wanted. I do really want to be a mum, but being a completely single mother was a lot harder than I had thought 😪😭

I'm so sorry for your pain, I hope that life holds good things for you in the future. Take care and get help if you need it, don't suffer all alone.