4 abortions now wanting to get pregnant

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Please don’t judge me as they were all valid reasons to each one.
My last one was in May this year. I’m now wanting to get pregnant again but now I’m panicking on the stupidity of aborting my last one as I was so ready but for reasons I had no choice. I worry I won’t be able to conceive and I know I don’t deserve to be able to get pregnant again after what I have done.
first two were surgical and last two were medical.
Has any one had multiple abortions and been able to go on and have a baby?
Im nearly 31 now.

I dont think there is any reason why you should not get pregnant again. i think it was only problematic in the days of backstreet procedures. providing the surgical was done properly no reason why they would have long term impact. your body will just see it as a miscarriage and women get pregnant after multiple miscarriages.. my only suggestion will be ensure you have processed what happened in may first. i stupidly rushed into getting pregnant again within a couple of months and should have made peace with it all first and not rushed into replacing the pregnancy as such. wishing you all the best

Hi, I have 3 abortion the last one in July I regret deeply and I hoping to concieve in the next couple of months. I had a infection after the surgical in July which can cause infertility so I am full of anxiety and regret ATM as tbh the timing was perfect but my ptsd from traumatic birth of my son took hold of my mental health. I think you will be fine and best of luck x

@Saskia2023 I just wanted to reach out as I don’t think you should necessarily blame getting pregnant again quickly for finding your current pregnancy difficult.

I had a 11 week miscarriage before my daughter. I got pregnant again quickly and suffered with terrible anxiety throughout that pregnancy. I was obsessed with miscarriage statistics then became convinced the good baby died and my daughter was the bad baby. It made it worse I knew she was a girl as that made her bad like me. The intrusive thoughts stopped when I gave birth and I never had any issues with PPD. I blamed getting pregnant too quickly after the miscarriage.

I’ve since had an abortion I regret because of similar patterns of intrusive thoughts. I’d love another baby and want desperately to be pregnant. I’ve been offered sertraline and CBT for anxiety and OCD. In my case, I started to go barmy even before I knew I was pregnant so there’s a clear hormonal component. The only positive is that I now have a degree of insight; pregnancy hormones act on my anxiety and I will obsess and have strange thoughts and I can use the CBT techniques to control that.

If I had waited a long time after my miscarriage to get pregnant I would still have developed anxiety and had a difficult pregnancy. The content of the thoughts may have changed but the underlying problem with anxiety exacerbated by hormonal changes wouldn’t have been any different. It’s happened to me across multiple pregnancies now in very different circumstances.

It may be that waiting longer to get pregnant would have helped you. It’s good general advice to give people. But it may also be there is a substantial hormonal and chemical component to the way you feel and you would feel this way whatever. I just didn’t want you to feel guilty that you have somehow ‘caused’ your difficult second pregnancy because it really might be completely out of your control.💐