Abortion- rpoc- periods

[Tclm]

Long story short well it is a long story but 23rd aug i made the worst decision to have a abortion at 9 weeks my anxiety got the best of me and now im just living with the consequences anyways took the medical pills frew bpas and passed pregnancy 24th heavy bleeding clots ect 28th aug ended up in a&e with 2cm retained products was offered the pills again which didnt do much still in pain now 3 week on bleeding turned into spotting nothing came out epu and gyno suggested just waiting till next period to see if it passes as under there rules its to small for surgery so back and forth blood tests for infection cos of the pain and still feeling the same i think my anxiety is getting the better of me as i keep thinking the worst having sleepless nights and night sweats legs pains ect so i keep thinking something is wrong epu told me to tell bpas they have taken over my care but bpas rang couple of days ago and told me to go to a scan with them to see if product remained so today 12sept went for scan and still there dont know what size cos under there rules they dont measure but they do offer surgery but this is at at different clinic which is miles away from me and i dont drive but as epu at local hosp as advised i dont need surgery and dont know why bpas would offer it for such a small amount of product. Anyways the bpas nurse was confident that the tissue would come out on my next period so im just wondering if there anyone out there that has had a similar situation and how long did it take for your period to come and did the tissue pass also she tested me today but left the test past 3 minutes and was a very faint positive line so she said il do it again because not ment to look at it after 3 mins then it was negative i just need my mind at ease ( not like I deserve it) but i just want to feel normal again im walking round like a ghost like im not in my own body i can’t function at all and I already have 2 children that need me but i just can’t move on with all this going on oh also still have tender breasts I don’t know if this is my hormones please somebody help 🙏

sounds like such a horrendous situation to be in. emotionally i was a wreck after mine in feb and i didnt have the physical stress youve also got going on. hopefully someone will come with better advice but just giving you a hand hold. bpas may do the surgery because thy are a charity and less resource driven whereas epus see so many women with miscarriages, terminations etc that may have a higher threshold as such before considering surgery. it sounds like you have been incredibly unlikely as over 90% of women pass everything. for many people their periods come back within a few weeks and hopefully as the lining clears it will pass the remaining tissue with it. but if you are feeling poorly it may be worth potentially having anitbiotics in case you have an infection to? message any time you need to, there are a group of women on here who have kids and then ended up having a termination and were a mess after emotionally and i know at times its only other people on here that have kept me going x

Thankyou for your reply i have had tests for infection temps blood pressure & blood tests come back with nothing and today at the scan the nurse said if i had infection she would of been able to smell it while having the scan vagally which is reassuring i suppose just really hoping for it to pass with period its just a waiting game now which doesn’t really help with the anxiety the nurse today did sound hopeful that it would pass with period as she didn’t really offer me the surgical she didn’t even measure the remaining so im not sure if its even partially gone from the first 2 cm she just said theres still a chunk there so dont know suppose will just aft to wait it out x

fingers crossed gets sorted. but like yuo say is making a dfficult situation even worse. message anytime on here for emotional support to- its a very lonely and distressing place to be and not something you anticipate going through x

I'm so sorry for all the pain you're going through, Tclm. You did what you felt was best at the time, please be gentle on yourself. There is a website called Abortion Changes You if you'd like to post your story there, or read the stories of others. There are millions all over the world who are grieving too. May you accept the healing and get peace back in your mind and heart.

Hi lovely I think or at least I'm 🙏mine passed Saturday night in what I believe or hope to be my period,I had to have the treatment twice as it failed and im going back as far as June this year,my bleeding has been erratic as well as my health anxiety xxx