Advice on abortion

[Mummaof1x]

I’m coming here for advice as my mind is all over the place please don’t judge I am 26 and a mum to a 15 month old I have just found out I’m 5 weeks pregnant me and my ex currently split due to it not working anymore after our son was born as I had pnd, we are still living together and our house is on the market up for sale I will be able to get social housing I work 16 hours and can get help with universal credit my ex and whole family are saying they think I am making a massive mistake and I should get an abortion as the timing is bad and the situation is not ideal and my ex still looking for somewhere to live I feel so broken I want to keep this baby but everyone else is telling me it’s a massive mistake and I will struggle and the stress of moving when pregnant etc and I would be a single parent of 2 as my ex works full time

If your heart if saying keep the baby go with your heart, the practical circumstances may be difficult but sounds like you will give it love. plenty of people bring babies in war zones etc and there is never a perfect scenario to have a kid. its easier for the people around you to think of the practical but you will have to deal with the emotional fall out from your decision and its what you feel you can cope with more. its worth having some counselling- places like BPAS can offer you it to help you process all these different considerations and get to heart v head of what is the least tough decision. either may be hard choices but its what you can manage living with x

Make a check list of all the factors - e.g.,

1. Financially can you do it comfortably
2. Do you have family support - two young kids would be quite tough without a partner / family support
3. Would having the new kid mean the first kid have to compromise his/her life.

You mentioned that you worked 16 hours - that's a long time, would you be able to afford baby sitter / child care + also would 8 hours be enough for you to recharge + spend time with your kids?

Not sure where you live but usually the father has to provide financial assistance if he helps create a child, and you can hold him to that. From what I've seen, the pain of trying to heal from aborting a wanted child is one of the most terrible a person can endure. Find out what financial aid/programs would be available to you and go from there. A sibling could be a wonderful gift to your other child, and though it's more work for a few years, then they have each other to play with (my best friend is experiencing the difficulty of having a six-year-old only child right now and trying to limit screen time AND work from home, it's a challenge too).

Thank you that has made me feel much better I am keeping my baby💙