unsure on abortion

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im quite young and found out im pregnant the dad dosent want kids yet he said hell break up with me if he keep the baby. im scared of having an abortion and would love a child my parents and siblings want me to get an abortion top as im autistic and they dont think i can handle a child. I have a support bubble of a few close friends who said theyd help out and stuff but im not sure. i have an abortion consultation on tuesday and im going with a friend but i still dont want an abortion as i hear they are painful and fill you with grief and regret. what should i do?

Is you abortion consultation a counselling appointment? If so it's great you're getting independant advice. If not I would ask for pre-abortion counselling at your appointment. If you can let them know you're autistic and ask for any necessary adjustments that might help you with counselling.

You don't say how far along you are? An abortion isn't necessarily scary. An early medical abortion with pills at home is really not too bad if the concern is blood or mess. Emotionally some people feel regret, many do not, and statistically after 5years most women are content they made the right decision. https://www.ucsf.edu/news/2020/01/416421/five-years-after-abortion-nearly-all-women-say-it-was-right-decision-study

You also don't say how old you are, how old the Dad is, or what your living situation is like? These are more important than the opinion of your parents or siblings. Think about what you want for your future and how you could get there/ make a pregnancy work.

Thinking of you and hope it all works out :)

the dad and i are a 6 months apart(both 16) Im not sure if its counselling or not im really confused due to my autism we already missed the phone consulation so had to get face to face. im 7 weeks 1 day (gestational).I live at home with my family and only have a small job that dosent pay that well. still unsure but have my friend whos giving me advice still

It’s good that you’re having a face to face appointment. Maybe take a list of questions with you so you can pass them over if you’re struggling to speak?

It sounds really hard. Of course 16-year-old do have babies sometimes but it would be very hard without your family to support and help you. Being a parent is very hard indeed.

I think you should seriously think about ending your relationship even if you do go ahead with the termination. He sounds unkind.

I had a abortion last Dec and we broke up. He just went in my house from a very far province to fix out relationship. Then now April I found out I am pregnant again. He will work abroad for 1yr then he wants me to continue my pregnancy promise to marry me but right now he beg not to say it to his parents. He want me to give birth to the baby first then show it to his parents. Because they have problem. But he always disrespect me nowadays. he doesn't message me a lot or just acting he did care for my wellbeing. When I am not pregnant he wants as to travel to spend time with me. But when he knew I am pregnant he cancels all and just want me stay at home because he won't spend a dime for me it is all for his baby he said. I like this baby but the way my boyfriend treats me makes me feel I want to cut Ties with him completely and this baby will keep our connections and he will keep on devaluing me. He doesn't know I had abortion last Dec. Please give me a advice. I am shaking like I believe that God gives life and he can only take it. I had a confession already about that in the church but here I am again didn't learn my false hope to my boyfriend because he proposed. But his attitude will not change and I am certain about it

I had my daughter at 19 it was so so hard, hard having a job and looking after a baby, or going to college. I personally wouldn't have a child with the promise from friends that they will help, they are also young and likely to not follow through with it.

I had an abortion recently and I don't regret it. It wasn't painful, just a heavy period, I was also around 7 week's. No one can make you do something you don't want to do, however I think you need to think carefully about the decision you make. You can go on to have more children when you're older, but if you chose to have the baby now that's a decision you can't change. How will you financially support you and baby? Where are you planning to live?

I'm really not trying to sound unkind, I've just been that young mum and It's life changing and hard.

Hey OP, how are you doing? I've had a baby at 16 and also had a termination so I know what both feel like. I hope you're ok and made the best decision for you in the end x

hey, i ended up miscarrying I had my made my choice shortly after i posted the og post and i was going to keep the baby sadly life didnt take me on that route x

I am so sorry for your loss ❤️ x