Daughters partner wants her to have a termination

[Motherhento3]

Hi, I’m looking for advice. My daughter has told me that she is pregnant, she is in a relationship, both are financially stable, they have just moved into their first home together.
problem: Her partner said he is not ready for kids and wants her to have a termination.
I know in my heart that she doesn’t want to. She wants to continue with the pregnancy.
I am beside myself with worry, I feel heart broken for her. She has basically got to choose him or the baby… he is so selfish!!
the next concern is that my daughter has PCOS.. the dr told her years ago that she might struggle to have children. She only has one or two periods a year..
I just don’t know how much I should get involved without confusing her.
ive told her I’m there for her with any choice she makes, but I know that’s she is going to go down the route of termination for him!
its a confusing time for her, one minute she wants to keep the pregnancy then the next she says she has no choice but to terminate as she wants her relationship, house etc. I just don’t know what to say.. I’m just listening and reassuring… I want to say.. are you crazy girl, this man won’t support you with a pregnancy but he will with a termination.
I feel heart broken for her, this is her first pregnancy and she should be excited.
what could I possibly say to her so she doesn’t have regrets if she wants the baby and decides to terminate…
what’s a terrible situation.
any suggestions please

I don't think it's fair of you to say her partner is being selfish. He is allowed to have an opinion and to say he isn't ready for children. At least he is being honest instead of just going along with things and then being a feckless, unwilling parent.

That said, I hope he isn't pressuring her and that she makes the best decision for her. It is her choice and her choice alone.

She may well want a child but maybe being a single parent isn't something she feels she wants or can cope with. I certainly wouldn't want to continue with a pregnancy on those circumstances, though I understand and respect the decision anyone that chooses to.

You say you know in your heart, has she actually told you she wants to go ahead with the pregnancy or are you guessing?

All you can really do is be there for her and tell her to think carefully about what life would like look after either decision.

I hope you and your daughter are ok.

Hi OP, I'm so sorry for your daughter. If she terminates a wanted baby for her partner, it's highly likely the relationship will end anyway as she may not be able to forgive him and is likely to feel fury and resentment towards him. If she wants the baby, she should have it. She has you and she'll be fine.

Her partner can choose to be a decent father to his child if he is mature enough to do this. He has already made his choice to have sex and now needs to deal with that consequences of that choice. But the decision to keep or terminate the pregnancy is your daughter's alone. (I kept my baby and have never regretted it).

All the best to you both.

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