positive abortion experience x

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Putting this here for girls like me who needed to hear this x

I found out I was pregnant last week in a relatively new relationship with a great man we just weren’t ready. I was on the pill but it had failed due to me travelling and being all over the place a month prior.

I did not want to have the abortion because i had already had one when i was younger due to SA and the pain i went through still gives me nightmares. But bear in mind i didn’t take any pain relief or pain killers and the circumstances of it all i was on my own. I was 5+2. When i put the tablets in my gums after about 5 minutes i fainted twice and experienced the worst pain of my life

BUT

this time i was also 5+2 and asked the doctor for strong pain relief. I was given codine and ponstan, I took both 30 minutes before putting the tablets in my gums.

After 5 minutes I felt the fainting sensation again and I did pass out but everything after this was absolutely fine. I sat in the bathroom for 2 hours watching gossip girl and keeping my blood surgars up drinking coke and eating chocolate before eventually taking to the bed. the pain was not worse than a first day period and 6 hours after taking the tablets i was back to normal, in the sitting room watching tv and having dinner, thanks to the help of the painkillers.

It’s been 24 hours now and i haven’t taken any painkillers in 13 hours. My advice is TAKE the painkillers, ask for codine (you’ll only need it once) and you’ll be absolutely fine. My previous bad experience from not taking any pain relief literally left me traumatised.

I kept waiting for it to get bad and it never did, obviously time was on my side too. if anyone has any questions please reach out i’m here to help. Remember you’re doing what’s right for you x

Glad your doing good now. I had my MA yesterday at 6 weeks + 5 days. The first hour was hell as I kept vomiting and couldn't keep any painkillers down. I lay on the bathroom floor for an hour and was alternating between vomiting and diarrhoea and the cramps were so intense that I kept passing out.

After the hour an once I could keep painkillers in me it was easy enough just like bad period pain but very manageable and not huge amount of blood lose. I passed the tissue about 7 hours later and almost straight away my nausea that I felt the past few weeks went away.

I had a good sleep last night and I woke up this morning for the first time in 2 weeks with no morning sickness and was actually hungry. I have some bleeding today and minimal cramps.

Although I have no regrets I am very emotional today. I had 4 friends with me who took such great care of me but it hurts so much that my ex didn't even bother to text me to see how I was doing or if I was ok. We both agreed that a termination was the best option for both of us and he said he would support me, but I haven't heard a word from him. I know it's my hormones that are all over the place and I will be ok in a few days.

Girl my heart absolutely breaks for you, not having the support of a partner is something i remember from my first termination, and to be honest i thought it was going to kill me. Horomones definitely don’t help but i just wanted to die i was so upset that the man didn’t care about anything i just went through. My advice is, get a good counsellor the free ones from HSE in my case probably NHS in yours are ángels sent to earth. They helped me through the trauma and anger of the feelings i had towards him. Now i’m so much better, i still hate him and wish him the worst but my life is better without him. I promise you will get there.

my partner had to leave today for work abroad for 10 days and i’m absolutely terrified he won’t come back or that the time away from my after the termination will
make him realise he doesn’t want me. It’s not ideal him having to leave the day after and it’s really upset me (i haven’t said this to him) i’m scared he just won’t come back but i’m trying to tell myself it’s just horomones :(

Its so difficult, the 2 weeks leading up to the abortion I was pretty ok and was very sure of my decision but now that it's done I'm consumed with guilt and feel so empty. Knowing my ex also had a new partner already is also very hard to deal with. I'm Ireland too so I will get in touch with the HSE, thanks for advising that.

You poor thing that's very hard for you that he had to go away but I'm sure everything will be fine, you should express your concerns to him I'm sure he will reassure you, it's the trauma of the last time making you think that x

I completely understand how you feel i held a lot of resentment and still do towards my ex from my last termination he left me the next day and never spoke to me again and i felt such guilt and felt so weak for believing him that things would be ok, but i promise you it does get better counselling really really helped me and understanding that the time will come one day when I can have children with someone who loves and respects me and that i deserve that and nothing less and you do too. You have to learn how to forgive yourself you done what you could with the information and the feelings you had at the time you need to trust yourself that it was the right thing. that man is out of your life now and you can truely move on from him and this experience and live your life without being trapped in a nightmare with him. i didn’t see that at the start but i do now