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Your body, your problem, your burden

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TomorrowToday · 13/07/2023 17:48

I'm currently finding it hard to come to terms with my decision not to abort. The guy won't respond to my messages. This came up on my Facebook feed...... do you think it's correct?

I could tell you 100 reasons why I should abort, but my heart is telling me not to.

I feel so alone having to make a decision.

Your body, your problem, your burden
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anxiousR27 · 13/07/2023 20:23

Hiya,

It's a very confusing time...I had a medical abortion 3 days ago. All I can say is think long and carefully about your decision. Mine come as a complete shock and the whole 3 weeks since I found out inwas pregnant I was yes and no the whole time untill I think I hit breaking point and terminated. I honestly have never regretted anything more in my life. To me is sounds if your heart is telling you no (which deep down mine was I just let fear take over) then keep your baby x

Only you can make the right decision for yourself... but like I said please please make sure you think it through.. I thought I knew what I wanted...I cleverly didn't BUT everyone is different.
Before terminating I thought it would take it all away and I could resume as normal again... which wasn't the case for me. However some woman can and some can't.

I don't mean to scare you but I don't think any woman is mentally prepared for the aftermath of a decision like this.

Good luck to you, I really hope you find the right answer for yourself ❤️

Mummy2022FT · 13/07/2023 21:56

I've seen you make a few threads about this (unless I'm going mad)

(IMO) if any woman is 'on the fence' about terminating I would say absolutely do not it.

I think the only time abortion doesn't mentally destroy a woman is when she is adamant from the offset she doesn't want the baby.

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TomorrowToday · 14/07/2023 17:53

anxiousR27 · 13/07/2023 20:23

Hiya,

It's a very confusing time...I had a medical abortion 3 days ago. All I can say is think long and carefully about your decision. Mine come as a complete shock and the whole 3 weeks since I found out inwas pregnant I was yes and no the whole time untill I think I hit breaking point and terminated. I honestly have never regretted anything more in my life. To me is sounds if your heart is telling you no (which deep down mine was I just let fear take over) then keep your baby x

Only you can make the right decision for yourself... but like I said please please make sure you think it through.. I thought I knew what I wanted...I cleverly didn't BUT everyone is different.
Before terminating I thought it would take it all away and I could resume as normal again... which wasn't the case for me. However some woman can and some can't.

I don't mean to scare you but I don't think any woman is mentally prepared for the aftermath of a decision like this.

Good luck to you, I really hope you find the right answer for yourself ❤️

Did the father support you?

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anxiousR27 · 14/07/2023 18:12

@TomorrowToday

He left the decision up to me.. I think he gave up in the end as I was yes then no every 5 minutes. Originally he didn't want any more children (we have 2) and we thought we was done until that big shock. He wanted to keep it we agreed about 5 days after we found out that we would keep it, we agreed termination wasn't right for us, which is why I'm still quite in shock at what I done - no offence to anyone at all it was just never really an option for me.
But he did pre warn me before I took the first tablet that if I do it then we don't talk about it... he said it's to sad and he wants to move on and forget.
Which I'm finding SO hard to not talk about around him or even with him. If I get upset I try and hide it or go in the bathroom as it was my choice and not his...

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TomorrowToday · 14/07/2023 18:15

anxiousR27 · 14/07/2023 18:12

@TomorrowToday

He left the decision up to me.. I think he gave up in the end as I was yes then no every 5 minutes. Originally he didn't want any more children (we have 2) and we thought we was done until that big shock. He wanted to keep it we agreed about 5 days after we found out that we would keep it, we agreed termination wasn't right for us, which is why I'm still quite in shock at what I done - no offence to anyone at all it was just never really an option for me.
But he did pre warn me before I took the first tablet that if I do it then we don't talk about it... he said it's to sad and he wants to move on and forget.
Which I'm finding SO hard to not talk about around him or even with him. If I get upset I try and hide it or go in the bathroom as it was my choice and not his...

It's our burden.

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TomorrowToday · 14/07/2023 18:15

Mummy2022FT · 13/07/2023 21:56

I've seen you make a few threads about this (unless I'm going mad)

(IMO) if any woman is 'on the fence' about terminating I would say absolutely do not it.

I think the only time abortion doesn't mentally destroy a woman is when she is adamant from the offset she doesn't want the baby.

People don't want me to keep it. They think I shouldn't.

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Mummy2022FT · 15/07/2023 00:52

@TomorrowToday

It's your baby! My own mother didn't want me to keep my child due to the (less than ideal) circumstances but now she adores her grandchild so much.

Follow your heart. Every. Single. Time.

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TomorrowToday · 16/07/2023 11:41

@Mummy2022FT when things get tough I'll he blamed for keeping it

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Forgiveness · 10/08/2023 20:37

This is me 💔 two weeks today and I cannot seem to be ok with how I even let it happen. Panic and fear took over x

Blessing9089 · 11/09/2023 20:11

I’m so sorry .. currently going through something similar

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