What to do..

[TiredMum97]

Hey everyone

So I found out I was pregnant yesterday, we absolutely have not been trying - this was a total accident which we are both accountable for (idiotic and unresponsible drunken night of unprotected sex). We have 2 little girls ages 3.5 and 2.5, so as you can imagine another on the cards would be a total handful.

Not only that but financially we can't really afford another right now - we were planning on starting to look into buying our first home next year, so this will just throw all of that out of the window. We would need a bigger car, more baby stuff. It's just such bad timing. I've also finally got myself back to the figure I was before my first pregnancy, mentally healthier as well - finally feeling more like myself again.

But the thought of an abortion breaks my heart. I know that you never truly regret a baby, but I just can't decide if it would be crueller to keep a baby in the situation we are in. I just don't know and I've not stopped crying since I found out. My partner isn't being supportive in the sense that he just thinks the best option is to not keep it, but he also said ultimately it's my decision which of course it is

Can anybody give me some advice? 😢 I just can't make my mind up but I don't want to leave it too long before it's too late.

Only you can make this choice . Whatever choice you do make, just know that it was the best one for you at the time in the situation you were in. There will be all kinds of opinions on this, some will say one extra won’t add too much, but really it’s down to how you yourself feel. What advice would you give a friend? Maybe write everything down and try to get a bit more perspective from within yourself. Wishing you all the best.

@HaitiHavana yeah that is true. To a friend I'd probably say do whatever their gut tells them too, my head is telling me to terminate the pregnancy as there's so many cons over pros. But my heart is telling me to keep it because I would love another child. It just wasn't right now in my life I wanted another.

I am in the exact same position at the minute. Totally unplanned, such a bad time. And worried about the impact on other kids. Did u manage to come to a decision…?

@Worriedpregnancy hi, I went ahead with my abortion just under 2 weeks ago. I've not bled much so I am curious to see if I've had any retained pregnancy. It wasn't an easy decision but the right one for me and my family at the moment. Best of luck with your decision x