I don’t know what to do

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Hey,

I really don’t know what to do

I’ve just found out I’m 12 weeks pregnant from a holiday romance which is obviously a shock.

I’m still with the man as I’m currently still on holiday and he wants me to live in his country with him, however, I will be leaving to go back home tomorrow

When I get home I will have no job or money and my dad has said I can live with him until the baby is born.

But, I’m not sure what I want to do if I want to keep the baby or not…

I know it’s not very smart with having no money or accommodation and it’s going to be stressful but in my heart I’m not sure I can get an abortion after having a scan and seeing/hearing the baby

My family say similar things that it’s not very smart but I just don’t know, I have thought about living with my holiday romance in his country but I think logistically it will be hard as I don’t speak the language and it’s quite a dangerous country.

opinions welcome 🙂

Your mind must be in turmoil right now, so firstly I'm sending you a big hug! Whatever decision you choose I'm sure you will be fine.

If I were you I would get home before making any decisions as I think your head space will be better. You can book in for an abortion without going through with it and to talk about options and if you think you might want to take that route I would do so as it may be a couple of weeks and the sooner the better with these things.

I had a child who I raised without the dad. He's three now. I don't regret the decision I made but it has been hard at times and I have really had to look after my mental health and be strong. It's difficult but you get by, financially and emotionally.

Support from friends and family is so important though. I would seriously think about all the implications of moving to another country with someone you haven't known long. Having a baby is lonely and isolating enough without that added into the mix.

Wishing you a lovely happy life. Good luck.