Please help me I’m so scared

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I’m 5 weeks pg with unplanned baby and prev has severe PND with 2 sons 17 and 6. Under MH team now for depression. Not sure whether to continue this pregnancy because scared i won’t cope and not be fair on my other children but also feel it’s my last chance at my age and a chance for my lo to have a sibling that will be about more.
I don’t know what to do and I am suffering with all day nausea which is making me feel so low

Really sorry to hear- it sounds your mind is racing and spiralling (I know my mind does that to and did a few months ago when i had an unplanned pregnancy). Firstly, just because you had PND the other times doens't mean you will this time. treatment, awareness and support has come on so much that hopefully you will be given specialist support from a perinatal mental health team to put in processes that will support you. (2) Also speaking from my mh experience, i had a termination as was petrified about the impact of the pregnancy and baby on my mental health but i actually had huge mental fall out from the termination and theres some evidence that if you experience mh issues then you can struggle with the emotional fall out from a termination- appreciate not everyone does. (3) The main thing is you have time- you dont have to decide alone what you do- BPAS OR your local termination provider (or there are national charities) are able to offer you counselling when you experience an unplanned pregnancy and support you to decide what may be best for you weighing up the different options. Please speak to a counsellor- I made the mistake of not talking to anyone and just letting my thoughts spiralling and ill always regret not because if i had still decided to terminate i would have made peace that i came to that decision through discussion rather than being driven by my anexity. (4) Write things down the pros and cons as again writing down can help process things. Message any time as there are many of us who have been in your dilemna and its a hard place to be in xxx

@Saskia2023 thank you so much for replying you are so kind. So sorry you suffered also post termination and struggled before it really is so awful. I hope that you are okay now and finding some peace. I am waiting for a call from a peri natal MH nurse to get some guidance. I hope I find some. Have a great day x

have pm ed you. x

@Saskia2023 thank you xx