Is it normal to have doubts

[Unicorntearsofgin]

Not sure what I am really after with this post - maybe reassurance that I’m normal.

Unplanned third pregnancy. As heartbreaking as it is I don’t want another child. I have two I love to bits but I just don’t want to go back to the baby stage and with my age I am so anxious about additional needs etc.

I was so sure I wanted a termination but I’ve had the pills over a week and I keep putting it off. I feel like it’s totally the wrong thing to do but there is this small doubt. Is that normal? I know deep down I don’t want another child so why am I finding the act of taking the pills so heart wrenching?

Any advice or thoughts please?

I had an unplanned 3rd pregnancy & we too were pretty certain we wanted to terminate.

I absolutely felt that doubt too, I think it felt worse because I had the pills in my hand, I was the one in control of choosing to end that pregnancy, it was all on me whether that pregnancy continued or not. That felt like a massive responsibility & a huge decision so I think to have a wobble is totally normal. To go 'ok well at 6pm I'll terminate my baby' is just a crazy thought.

I have 2 children who are the world to me so I guess there was that bit of 'why on earth wouldn't I want another, these ones are so awesome'. But deep down knew it just wasn't right

If you're absolutely certain it's not the right decision to keep it then remind yourself why you have made that choice & just take them without thinking too much about what you're actually doing.

Here if you jeee

Thank you so much for the kind words. It pretty much sums up how I feel. It’s not right for me at all but the guilt I feel is overwhelming.

I don’t know if it’s normal to have them but if you have any doubts at all don’t just jump in and do it.

I’ve been though the worst time of my life having an abortion I didn’t 100% want. I basically did it because I felt backed up to a wall and like there was no choice and then after the reality of what things made me do it became clear and I could have sorted everything.

As soon as I found out I was pregnant I panicked and entered what I can only describe as a fight or flight state of mind. I don’t know if it was the hormones or the fact I felt so very poorly but that person who did it was most definitely not me.

i Could have written this post myself. How are you doing have you taken them yet? I have MSI appointment to request tablets this Friday @NoIdeaWhy11 i felt exactly like you after a prev termination and am in that state of mind again as so sick. Tried to get support but was useless so running for the clinic but not sure if it’s me or my head !!

It may be worth seeing if you can a counselling appointment from your provider jut to go through your feelings and that will hopefully make things clearer for you one way or another. its a difficult process and hard when in your own hands. x

Well I changed my mind but having a miscarriage anyway. So sad

I'm so sorry must be devastating and going to take some processing. Definitely allow yourself to grieve x

I'm so sorry to read this update. I hope that you're ok & that happier times lie ahead. Sending lots of love

Thanks all. I think I’m still in shock. I’d just got used to the idea of going ahead with everything. Can’t believe this happened - I’d have been nine weeks today.

i am sure it will be a difficult few weeks- if notjhing else you have the hormone drop let alone the emotional turmoil. places like tommys will provide counselling. it will be a grief process xxx