Abortion advice

[Kemikoo]

Hi, I am mum of 4 grown up children and have unexpectedly fallen pregnant. I know it sounds stupid but I simply forgot to have my injection. My partner cannot cope with stress and has severe mental health issues. We have had previous chats about what we would do if I fell pregnant and discussed we wouldn’t want one. I said I would have an abortion and not say anything and he agreed. Well now it’s actually happened and I’m a mess. I 100% do not want a baby but am still struggling with the hormone mental side of it. I don’t even know how far along I am till I have scan but I think approx 6-8 weeks. Do BPAS give you this? I’m keen to get this done asap but no idea how it works.
Does anyone know waiting times etc
Thank you for any info in advance

I’ve just been through the same thing, I booked a scan with BPAS and then the consultation but then worked out exact dates which would put me at 6 weeks. I knew if I had the scan I’d want to keep the baby. I decided to call them and cancel the scan (they were ok with this) and then book the soonest consukattiin

Sorry posted too early, just been up with my baby so sleepy eyes. Yes so I made sure I had a councilling sesssion with them which was very quick from when I called and then I had the consultation. My partner also doesn’t want to keep this pregnancy as we are stretched with a 1 year old and 5 year old. Just makes me sad we haven’t discussed the option of keeping this one. But I have the pros and cons written down in a journal to ensure I can look back and know why I made the decision. Hope you’re ok.

Thankyou Cgy, Are you having an abortion?
so I’ve had a date through by email for a scan next Monday. Only a week but seems like lifetime. I just need to get this over with as longer it goes on more I am struggling
Do you think it’s with calling them to see if can bring forward?

They did say appointments depends on area, I didn’t have a scan booked and then in the counselling session she said I can book you a scan but that meant waiting another week and we are in the process of moving this week so it’s just really bad timing. I’m literally in the process of going through with the abortion as I type this. Came on here to read a few messages for reassurance. I would say definitely write down your reasons for and against so you have a clearer idea and you could call them to see - part of my heart really wanted a scan so I’d have something to keep but for me I think that could have made it more difficult. I also suffer from bad sickness from 6 weeks pregnant and I already was not able to cope looking after the other children the last few days. It’s the hardest decision ever and I can’t help but feel having kids already makes it harder.
good luck with everything, if you need to message I’m here.

Thank you! Your advice is very much needed!
Ive managed to get a scan for this morning and a telephone call for 2 days. So glad I don’t have to wait a week. Longer I go more I’m struggling. For me I know I don’t want more children but it does also depend on how far I am. Today I will know.
I really hope you get through this the best you can and if you need to message please also feel free to do so! Xx

Thank you, that’s great. I think the sooner the appointments the better. Because I didn’t take the tablets straight away but at least had them. I think it’s all done now, feeling emotional today and have the 1 year old on my own but just going to have a chilled day. Hope everything goes well for you

You are really brave! It’s the emotional side I’m worried over as usually my partner and I talk through everything and he is my rock. It’s just unfortunate after previous chats I know not telling him is best thing for us both weird as that sounds but it just is.
I think the fact that I am feeling relived that this is getting sorted and I will no longer be pregnant will help in long run, I am worrying though the treatment won’t work and I will still be pregnant but I am an over thinker!
I hope you manage to have chill
day as much as you can x

So you haven’t told him at all? Do you think if you chose to go through with it that you might need to have those discussions with him? Or are you pretty certain that won’t help. I was exactly the same, reading stories about tests being positive still. I really don’t feel pregnant today. Headaches and nausea are completely gone.

So I am 5 weeks and 5 days. Getting the tablets Thursday
No having had previous discussions about if I ever fell I know it’s right thing he doesn’t know as he said he’d rather not and I’m good with that too
Glad it’s all going straight forward for you x

Hi Recyledkettle
Thank you for the advice. I 100% do not want more children so it’s the right thing for us both. It’s difficult to explain obviously as you don’t know our relationship but I personally would also struggle more if he knew then if he wouldn’t if that makes sense?
Hes there for me in every way possible and the best person to ever come into my life but it’s just the right thing to do this way x

Hya, I was just reading your post.
I too am just over 5 weeks pregnant, I had my first pill yesterday and have the next lot tomorrow.
Have you taken your first tablet today? How are you feeling? If you don't mind me asking how old are you? As I seen that you said you had 4 grown up children? I'm 41 and getting caught pregnant was a massive shock too for me and my husband, I have 3 children eldest 23 nd youngest 13 this month.
The reason I asked your age is because I'm 41, a smoker and have had 3 children, they said I was high risk for blood clots I went through nhs hospital so they have given me 6 weeks worth of blood thinning injections that I'm so scared to take, I was supposed to start yesterday so I'm just wondering if you are around my age and if you have had to take these too.
Thank you xx

Hi, I can’t collect my tablets until Wednesday
non smoker so no need for anything.
Good luck to you x

Hya not long to wait now then, I'm just glad mine is all over with, been a long few weeks, as I made contact with msi first, but failed security due to forgetting the password I made, so then I had to ring my local NHS, then wait a week almost for their phone assessment. It's not just being a smoker, you get points for being over 35, so many points for how many children you have, points for what ur bmi is, and various health conditions, nhs maybe more strict with things like that maybe. Good luck for Wednesday xx

Tablets taken and no regrets, was actually way easier and straight forward than I thought
The fact I am relived that I am no longer pregnant confirms everything was the right choice for me. It’s lesson learnt and not something that will be repeated.
Anyone experiencing similar really think about what’s best for yourself.