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Unsure what to do

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user1470572649 · 16/05/2023 15:26

My period was due yesterday but never arrived despite having cramps. Today I've taken a pregnancy test and it was positive, this isn't planned and was a failure of contraception so I'm in shock here. Having looked back at my last period I'm 4 weeks today so it's very early still.

Unfortunately this isn't the first time I've been in these shoes, I had a termination and didn't tell DP because I was so sure of my decision that I didn't see the point in adding that onto his plate as well. I've phoned the same clinic today and they want me in for a scan next week before starting the ball rolling for another medical termination but I think this was a kneejerk reaction from me and I don't know if I want to go down that road again, maybe I will once I've had some time to consider it though. But at the same time, I'm really nervous to tell DP although I know I have to. The timing isn't great but it's not awful either, we live together, my job is pretty good for my age and where we live, he's just started a new job a couple of months ago.

We've both been on the fence about whether we want children or not which is why I'm so nervous to tell him as I'm not sure how he's going to react. I don't really know how to react myself really! I'm just a jumble of emotions. Has anyone been in this situation before; having to tell their partner of an unexpected pregnancy when neither of you were sure you wanted children in the first place?

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Whatapickle07 · 16/05/2023 16:13

I dreaded telling my partner as he made it clear he did not want more children. I thought i did.

However he has been great, to begin with he was a bit shocked but and not the best. I had to accept he did not want to talk about it straight away and needed time to think, and i had to respect that.But it ended up he was leaning more to wanting it than me.

Anyway for many reasons we chose not to continue with the pregancy but hes been great. Just be up front and honest about how you feel. We spoke about it at least 6 times before we made a decision.

user1470572649 · 16/05/2023 16:21

Thank you for your reply @Whatapickle07 , it's reassuring to know someone has been in a similar boat. We had both been leaning slightly towards the not wanting end of not being sure about children so I am really dreading how it's going to go this evening but I feel like I need to tell him because I really don't know what to do. Last time I was sure what I wanted as soon as I saw the two lines so in some ways it was easier.

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