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Medical abortion

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Whatapickle07 · 04/05/2023 16:59

I have my phone appointment booked for tomorrow. Then they will send the pills through the post. Did anyone have to take time off work when they went through it? I have chosen ti do it at home and not at the clinic.

I feel utterly heart broken at the idea of having to have an abortion. But i just can't see a way to make it work. Two children already. A small house which would be a huge squeeze. Plus the age gap so sharing would feel so unfair on the children. 10+ age gap.

The worry of money jumping from two to three. But its also all i have ever wanted.

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daffodi · 04/05/2023 22:45

Hello, I took some time off work. Just make sure you are sure, before making any final decision. I will say though if you’re not sure about it now you could go through with the termination and review your feelings in 6 months, 18 months, 3 years etc depending on your age. One choice in this situation means you are committing to having another child, the other choice is postponing bringing a 3rd child into your family. If that makes sense. It’s hard, you are very welcome to PM me as I know it can be lonely.

Mamato2girlss · 09/05/2023 09:37

Hi, how are you doing? Did you have your consult yet? I am in a very similar position- only I have a soon to be 6 month old and a 2.4 year old. Both born via sections. I am so lost on what to do. I am 2-3 weeks pregnant. The timing isn’t good for so many reasons - the main concern I have is safety so soon after previous section. It’s truly the hardest decision ever. Sending love

tryingtonavigatelife · 20/06/2023 11:51

Hi,
I am 29 years old, been with me partner 12 years, due to marry in 4 months, we have a holiday booked in 6 months, and honeymoon booked for 9 months time.

This is my first time being pregnant, we are and have always been so careful. We recently moved into our first home a few months ago, and we had said already at the start of the year if anything happened we wouldn’t continue the pregnancy and that we will talk about children next year, purely because we have soo much booked and planned for the next 9 months and I myself wasn’t 100% sure i wanted children at the moment, I was 80% sure I didn’t.

Saturday was a shock, I was one day late for my period, but had the symptoms of my period coming.. and then we found out we were pregnant.

Im fully aware it’s my body my decision, but we both feel that our previous plans are right and that currently a child isn’t our plan, and a few weeks ago I didn’t even know if I wanted children.

I have been so emotional since, crying, feeling guilty about the act itself, but I’m confident I’m doing the right choice. But yesterday I had the thought, if I’m this upset could I regret this? But I think it’s more the thoughts of in 9 months time, when we jet off to honeymoon which is the expected arrival date, I will then just have the “ this is what it could have been like” moments.

I have an initial telephone consultation booked for next Monday, with no idea when I can start the medical abortion at home.

im a nurse working 13 hour shifts, so I’ll need to tell work to get the time off , I am anxious, embarrassed, nervous, scared and feel so guilty and sad for what I’m doing..

Isit normal to know your doing the right thing. But be so upset and no that I will look back at key dates and think, oh baby would it been here then, and probably think / imagine how life then could have been.

RecycledKettle · 20/06/2023 21:01

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anonymous5678 · 23/07/2023 17:50

Hello, I am just wondering how this went.i am in a very similar situation same age long term relationship and just don't feel like it's the right time right now for us and came as a shock. If your ok to share would be interested to know how it went for you . Thank you

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