To keep or not to keep?

[allthingspinkx]

I'm 24F and 4 weeks today. Not told DP yet & terrified, needing advice on what to do.

This was unplanned using contraception and although we both want children eventually I don't feel like we're prepared. We've been together 8 months really not long but the relationship is the healthiest most loving one yet. He is the best partner (25M) and I couldn't ask for more from him.

Since we're not married and don't even live together yet (although this has been discussed) I'm scared for the baby's future esp if I end up on my own.
Is it ridiculous to consider a termination based on this?

Financially, things are not amazing right now but I own my own home and think I could get by. His finances are fine and better than mine.

X

hiya!

This is big news! If deep down you do want to go ahead with the pregnancy, I think look at your fears surrounding the pregnancy & see whether there are any solutions/ways to ease them.

You’ve mentioned you own your home and could get by financially, which is great! If you did decide to go ahead with the pregnancy, maybe your partner could move in down the line when you both feel comfortable?

Is there something in particular you’re concerned about regarding not being married and the baby’s future?

Ultimately, you should make the best decision for yourself. We all handle things differently and if you don’t think keeping it would be best for you and your situation then that’s completely understandable and okay!!

I was in your position a couple of months ago, but chose to terminate the pregnancy because I didn’t feel ready and was worrying about the what-if’s. Today I can honestly say, I probably jumped the gun and my worries could’ve been sorted.

Do you have a support system outside of your partner (e.g. close friends/siblings/other family)?

It sounds like you’re in a healthy relationship and your partner sounds like a good guy, maybe have a decision with him about your fears?

Best of luck
xo

You need to talk it though with him to see how you both feel about this long term. On a lighter note there's not much point in putting F and M as any other combination wouldn't work. I hope you make the right choice and get the support you need