Hello! I need perspective from people who might have been in a similar situation.
I am 5-6 weeks pregnant from my partner who has now had to go back to the US (U.K. visa expired). We used contraception so this should not have happened, but now I want to go ahead with the pregnancy.
We have been dating since November, things are good between us but we don’t know each other much after 5 months. He’s a wonderful man for so many reasons though. We like each other, there’s really good and transparent communication between us and we would be a good team, but we just can’t predict how we last long term yet.
He’s at a critical point in his life and although he has been incredibly supportive of whatever I do, he would be majorly set back in his career if he moved to the U.K. now to support me. He doesn’t want to let me do this alone and wants to be present for the baby. He wants children, but would prefer to have them when he’s started his career and saved up, and when we’ve had more time to build our relationship. I fully get all of that.
I already have a nice career, work with good enough maternity package, supportive friends and family, some savings, etc. I can do this, but I also feel sad that he would have to sacrifice so much more than I do for this. I worry this might bring long term pain and resentment in what has otherwise been a really nice relationship so far.
I don’t want to base my decision solely on what would be better for people around me though, right now I really don’t feel like I can go through with abortion. I want this child and I’m worried I would regret terminating, even if I know it wouldn’t be closing a door to future children.
I’m wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation to mine? Am I being unreasonable and irresponsible for wanting the baby despite these circumstances?