Pregnant after third date

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I'm pregnant after my third date with a guy.

I'm 38. At the start I thought it was great, a shock but great. However morning sickness has hit and now I don't want to continue.

He's taken the new ok I guess. Wanted to meet but I didn't. He's got an ex with two kids and I just feel like it's messy.

My family will prob talk about me behind me back as well.... but I'm also at the end of having a baby.

I just didn't know.

Thank you.

I've spoken to him and not told him I want to keep it.... but I want to.

If you want to keep it, you keep it. If you have even a tiny inkling of doubt about terminating, don't do it. You do what's best for you 💜

The morning sickness means I have eaten four eggs (usual for me) foot long chicken sub and lots of kfc chicken...., when I eat I don't feel sick. That's awful.

I just can't muster the words that I want to keep the baby. He wants to meet and support me,.,, because he doesn't want the relationship to end... I do.

I'm also terrified of abnormalities and having to abort... or letting everyone know and then abort,

Anyone ? :(

He doesn't think it's right.

So I told him I'll abort.

He's still wanted to date me.

I said that wasn't possible, it's traumatic having an abortion.

He left mine and I think he was crying but I'm
Not sure.

I couldn't tell him I want to keep it. I feel like I've trapped him.

I will continue with the pregnancy and make a decision.

He's got kids already. I don't.

Why have you lied to him?

He doesn't get a say in whether you continue with the pregnancy or not but I don't think it's fair to tell him you're aborting if you're not.
(Unless you're frightened of him or he's pressuring you etc)

Tell him how you honestly feel. He's entitled to an opinion (just not a decision) and he's given you his opinion honestly. Just because he doesn't think it's right to have a baby doesn't mean he won't support you or will be angry with you if you do decide to go ahead.