Please, kind comments only. I know this is a heated topic but I don’t need any animosity right now.
Hi everyone,
I have just found out that I’m pregnant. It was totally unplanned and would be our 3rd. We are very lucky to have two beautiful children who are now 5 and 2.5.
For context, I had terrible PND and PNA after my first pregnancy and also felt depressed after my second. We currently live with family while we save for a deposit and a 3rd baby is a huge spanner in the world and I worry for my mental health and for my existing children’s well-being also. My husband is kind and supportive and says it is my decision but has made it clear he would struggle to do it all again. They have both been terrible sleepers and 2 year old still wakes up most nights.
We are just getting some semblance of normality and routine and sleep and I finally feel more like myself again and I don’t know if I can sacrifice that.
That being said, I’ve often thought I might want a third eventually and this one seems to have made its way through. I think about lovely they would be but I know I’m reality that it’s a fantasy - the reality is so, so hard. Sore boobs and sleepless nights and depression.
I don’t really know what I’m asking here. Has anyone been in the same position? What did you do?
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