Abortion and REGRETS. Struggling to Heal

[Nicole77]

I really hope I can help someone out there!
i’ve had an abortion and they were twins. I regretted the day I had the Abortion but felt it would ruin my life as I couldn’t see myself with my ex at the time.

I wish someone told me not to worry and that it was completely normal to worry and freak out. Your seeing your life flash before you. I made every excuse on the planet to get rid of the pregnancy. I don’t even have twins my family so was so sad to have to make the decision. I had a feeling God was trying to warn me not to go ahead with it.

I booked an appointment with BPAS and they took forever to book me in!!! Which only makes you feel worse. I thought to continue and maybe give them up for adoption but I couldn’t live with the fact my children would be somewhere alive and not under my care! It’s a lot to deal with. I had the Abortion and felt EMPTY. Like I lost apart of me.

I sometimes think I can hear them crying from afar, but I know I’m only just forgiving myself and never would advise any one to abort a pregnancy. Everyone’s situation is different and I’m not in support of abusive relationships etc.

If your not sure what to do about an Unplanned/ planned pregnancy, whether it’s the 1st 2nd or 3rd. I would find other like minded mums online who you would find are going through similar things. I would also look around and if you have any support at all from friends/family/partner it’s definitely worse pushing through.

GOODLUCK AND THANKS FOR READING X

hello, i hope you are ok :( i felt so sad when i read you're post, i am sending big hugs and i really hope you are ok. i am pregnant currently with my 3rd and i don't really know what to do 😞because my situation doesn't help. We are staying in a council house with no help at all from family and with just husband working and we struggle as it is. I am convinced a 3rd child would make things a bit harder and a lot more chaotic but i feel a really big guilt when i think about abortion.i'm so torn apart from the entire situation plus that i have 36 years old.

Hi, I Hope your feeling okay first of all as the pregnancy hormones are the worse especially with kids!

I understand the pressure is ALOT especially when you’ve got children already and not being financially stable yet makes it’s easier to just quit on future pregnancies. I do think children are blessings from God and every child has their own gifts and uniqueness which mums love.

To be honest most people do terminate for financial reasons and I understand. I would say finances is a temporary situation and kids aren’t little forever. Babies grow so fast it’s like the quickest stage of their lives!

You can definitely come out of the housing situation and the finance part of things but your already a super mum if you’ve got two, so your definitely doing something right!

I would say try and push through even if you’ve got just a little support from your husband it’s more than enough to get through the hardest days/weeks of a newborn. It will just be a part of your story to the children when they grow up and this baby would definitely connect with you on that note! GOOD LUCK AND STAY STRONG.

PS: Try and download pregnancy apps where you can find mums in groups, forums, etc. You’ll find most of them are in the exact same situations and some worse as they are single parents.